Note: unless you’re deliberately obscuring someone’s gender and know their preferred pronouns, use their preferred pronouns.

  • MajorHavoc@programming.dev
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    7 days ago

    I also use “they/them” until someone shares their pronouns.

    Officially, I do this to avoid misgendering people.

    Really, I do it because some snowflakes are too fragile to share their pronouns, and I enjoy annoying them until they do.

    • girlthing@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      2 days ago

      Really, I do it because some snowflakes are too fragile to share their pronouns, and I enjoy annoying them until they do.

      hello from a snowflake who is stuck in the closet, and too fragile to share my pronouns because it forces me to misgender myself and reminds me of how far i am from a life that feels like mine

      i don’t disagree with the they/them-by-default policy (principle of least harm etc), but if you ever find people being less than enthusiastic about it or reluctant to state their pronouns, please consider that there could be other reasons

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      7 days ago

      I mean if someone doesn’t want to share their pronouns what do they really expect, they should share them or accept they/them without complaining. Can’t expect other people to read minds.