• Akasazh@lemmy.world
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    It’s almost like they want their fanbase to remain single and sexually frustrated

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    so how many men is “some men?” weasel words imply the actual reality is someone saw a statistically insignificant number of tweets and didn’t want to say that because it weakens the point they already decided they want to make.

    anyway my junk smells great after a shower, and i know people with sniff kinks, so… i guess that makes me more alpha than these losers.

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    A young woman once did comment positively on my scent while I was perspiring lightly, but I had showered previously, so that probably helped the most.

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    My wife has always told me that women really just want a guy who is nice to them and doesn’t smell, and monosphere weirdos keep telling them to do the opposite.

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      I’ve read my fair share of romance novels by women and it’s common to describe the main love interest as smelling like freshly clean laundry lol. Literally just show up clean with clean clothes on. It’s not more complicated than that.

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      Well you’re not going keep a small army of incels addicted to “content” and dubious financial apps signed up to via affiliate links if you get them all laid now, are you?

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        Technically true. Fun and interesting are what most people are attracted to regardless of gender. People also are particularly prone to developing attraction to people they feel good being around.

        Kindness is however a prerequisite for a large portion of women (and an absolute no go for plenty of other women, because people). The ones who want kindness are much better partners

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          100 percent disagree. The number one thing that women consider in a long term partner is financial stability. People confuse “kind to me” as kind. The shittiest rich people have the most partners. People are attracted to power and success. The stories come along after.

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            Some people are. It’s also a question of what the man wants - a lot of shitty short term partners, or one (or a small number) of hight quality long term partners. The latter is better achieved by being kind to the partner.

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        By telling you to trust virgin men instead of women on matters of what said women think, said virgin men fried your understanding of the world forever.

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        oh here we go. with the nice guys. yeah, be an aggro butthole, lay out the insults, they LOVE IT! buddy. you’ve been sold the garbage and you’re eating it.

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    My first GF, many years ago. I was snuggling with her, and smelled her hair. I said it smelled nice, and she pulled back to tell me she hadn’t washed it in three days. In the moment, because I was so young and inexperienced, I felt a little foolish.

    It doesn’t take long to realize it’s okay to like what you like.

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          Its impressive how often I hear about Ireland and think to myself “man I would fit in well there”.

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            We alternate our cursing. Sometimes feckin’, sometimes fuckin’. Sometimes shit, sometimes shite. Sometimes cock, sometimes dick, sometimes lad, sometimes mickey, sometimes tool, sometimes one-eyed trousersnake, etc. Sometimes pussy, sometimes minge, sometimes gee, sometimes fanny, sometimes box, sometimes cunt, etc. You get the idea. The improvisational variety is half the fun of cursing.

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              One of the most hilarious moments in my life was watching my mother-in-law casually use the word “fanny” in front of our entire Irish extended family, and seeing their reactions. I believe the verbatim was “carting their fannies around”. (As in, she was driving folks to various destinations in a rental car.) She may have also used the phrase “giving rides” in conjunction.

              Even little kids say this in America, it’s the equivalent of “bum” really, and isn’t associated with a specific gender. The reactions on the faces of these people, some of whom we were meeting for the first time, were truly priceless.

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      i had no idea if you don’t have a shower before a date you instantly turn into a smelly monster

      is this an american thing specifically?

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        The expectation is you shower every day. The assumption is if you did not shower that day, you stink.

        It was an easy way to get downvotes on reddit: just say I shower ever 3-5 days and don’t stink and people would just assume I did stink and that it is impossible for the human body not to sink without a daily shower.

        Sometimes I’d even experiment and say I wash my pits daily and use a bidet. That helped a little, but not a lot. It has to be full body immersion in a shower, or it is ineffective according to the common wisdom.

        Edit: i see it’s not limited to reddit lol

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          People really need to learn that everyone’s bodies are different. Personally, I’ve found that buzzing off body hair does wonders for the perception of my cleanliness. Doesn’t matter how much I scrub, the smell sticks to the hair. When it’s not ungodly hot out, I could (and had to one extremely busy work week) go almost a week without showering.

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            If I shower because I’ve been sweating, it’s because I itch; I don’t smell worse for sweating–at least not if I’m using deoderant.

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          I get it, I have a buddy who doesn’t need deodorant because he just doesn’t smell, even when doing manual labor. He still showers regularly, but not every day, to get the sweat and dirt off. I knew him for years before he told me and didn’t suspect a thing.

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            Maybe he kept it to himself because people react with disgust despite all the evidence before their very noses.

            Cleanliness as ritual.

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          It is also stupid, since you can very easily just wipe your skin with a washcloth and use a bidet, or something. Unless you are sweating like a crazy and covered in dirt, it is not that hard to clean yourself, without taking a shower, or full-body-underwater-bath. Just a bucket of water is a lot. “Aah oh noo evryone needs to shower thrice a day!!” no you do not - you need to stay clean. Taking a shower specifically, is a luxury.

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            Yes, it is incredibly stupid.

            “You didn’t take a shower? Your arm pits must STINK!”

            • “Well, I washed those with soap and water in the sink.”

            “That’s DISGUSTING. You must stink.”

            • “Well, no, what I’m explaining to you is that I washed my pits with soap and water, the same way I would if I were in a shower.”

            “I’m sure people are just too polite to tell you.”

            etc.

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        Not sure if it’s an American thing but definitely a some men thing.

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          Men are animals, same as women. There’s people who can’t handle dating an animal, and I get it, but makeup on a pig just makes it look pathetic. I would rather kiss the pig, warts and all or be alone, but kiss a pig that looks like a clown and smells like petrochemicals? Now that is a turnoff.

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        I mean… I think it depends on the guy. Some guys have a strong body odor and first impressions matter a LOT. Also dates are usually at the end of the day when y’all are at your stankiest from the day’s activities.

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          when y’all are at your stankiest from the day’s activities

          If you’re showering regularly, that really shouldn’t be that much of an issue unless you have a very active job outside.

          Every woman I know loves their boyfriend/husband’s “musk” when they’re sweaty. That’s a pretty common partner thing.

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              I mean, I wash off my nethers before bed for that reason, but I don’t take a full shower. I don’t even get my top half wet. My wife loves my natural smell at the end of the day.

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    If you show up to a cafe smelling like an anime convention or a TCG tournament then you have only yourself to blame when your date runs away gagging.

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    It’s not that hard… shower 4-8 hours before the date, then don’t do anything that makes you sweat significantly or become dirty. You’ll still be clean, but won’t have scrubbed away your natural smells and the like.

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    I’m pretty sure if it’s anything-maxxing it’s stupid as fuck. Unless it’s giving me money-maxing. I’m all for that one.

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    I mean I did just date a woman who told me she was into sniffing body odor. As in, would shove her nose into her ex’s armpits after he mowed the lawn. We didn’t date long enough for it to happen to me, but definitely a thing, for some people