I have composed a piece of written musings on the tools choice in clay sculpting which I put on a display on a public internet forum.
I have received following advice: Go seek therapy.
However upon checking my vaults it has become apparent that they are barren.
What should I do in this situation?
My advice: budget for it, you really need one. There are lots of therapists who offer sliding scale.
why do I really need one tho, I am curious what is that you spotted that made you feel like it
its just such a non telling comment - go to therapy. why, what’s wrong, what made you uneasy?
You’re actively sabotaging yourself, your relationships, and your physical health because of your thoughts. Also you come across as more than a little unstable. I am not a therapist, but if I can get this impression reading 5 paragraphs of what you write, I would say you have serious issues.
yah I probably have lots of them mental health pokemons
thats why its so scary to go
like you know teeth repair is less scary than extraction or jaw surgery
no need to be so judgy tho my bro, we all have stuff more or less.
such is the human condition
This post makes no sense and has zero context. What clay sculptures? What? Huh? Why are they saying to seek therapy? Maybe provide even the minimum of context? I didn’t see how anyone could possibly give you advice based on the information you provided here.
Translation: I have written a post about my thoughts online. I was told to seek therapy, but I don’t have enough money to pay for one. What now?
Tis a joke.
Therapy will be a useless tool to combat mental health until thrapists can legally decide the government has to pay welfare to people who they decide can not handle 40hrs a week.
Therapy can’t fix the main economic stressors that are the cause of most people’s mental issues.
That’s what I have been thinking. Therapy could be a way to make the masses more productive and obey the senseless laws of society
This post smacks of disingenuousness.
At the risk of being impolite, it reeks of cuckoo.
Either you’re trolling or you’re exaggerating.
I do not recommend this Van gogh method
No but seriously why people say such things as if it was some kind of magic pill, free thing
- Either they think it is some kind of no brainer solution to everything they do not like
- Or they say it as a form of derogatory remark which is doubly questionable
It’s like everything wrong with XXI century can be summed up by this phrase.
XXI century, go seek therapy, you are the worst timelineThat is not everything wrong with the 21st century - that’s just Reddit being a toxic platform. Sociopaths get off on inflicting pain - their comments aren’t about you, they’re doing it for self gratification.
The solution really depends on the problem. We don’t know why they told you to seek therapy.
Doesn’t matter, it was a made-up clickbait and satire to have some serious talk in the comments about these things
So this post is just a platform for you to vaguely criticize therapy? It sounds like it’s financially out of reach where you live and that sounds like a societal issue. But I will happily admit that a lot of what people depend on therapy could likely be much more cheaply given by having a stronger social network.
No I just want to talk, there is no malice nor ill intent
I think your post was quite unproductive as it failed to clearly state a problem then. Your post essentially boils down to “I said a thing and people on the internet trolled me for it - how am I supposed to afford the therapy they recommended” while also constructing a scenario where the therapy you were recommended was clearly just an offhand troll doing troll shit.
I’d reinforce that a strong social network can help alleviate a fair amount of our dependency on therapy if we’re focused on the cost aspect and I’m not certain what other discussion you were attempting to spur.
I don’t have any friends whatsoever since like 10 years tbh and honestly never had one. Just acquaintances and frenemies but right now I haven’t talked to anyone except family since years I think
So I guess my ways of communicating may be a bit strange and look like trolling when they are honest and there is no ill intent or malice
I like to talk online sometimes and have responses I can interact with. All cool I hope my bro take care 🥰 and chill
Therapy is one tool that can assist personal growth. You could also try reading into Stoicism or make friends you can talk to candidly or take some acid.
Hey, hey, hey: Mushrooms before acid (although honestly trying to make friends with shared interests is probably the best idea).
Okay but if it is so essential as the contemporary society would allow you to believe then why it is more expensive than an hour with a sex worker? (At least here) somehow I cannot get the therapy prostitution connection out of my mind.
Like why would I say to some stranger (I choose based on looks and opinions lol) my feelings and pay them for it and also wait for dates available like it was some highly sought service competition and I am just some 10th gear in queue of the bucks making machine.
Not only I must pay for this but also wait patiently for a month. Some crazy stuff
And what is that will be revealed to me that I didn’t know already if anything? For an hour of feeling good after waiting for weeks I will pay 150 dollars??
I could get one pack of high quality cocaine for that /j not to mention all the stuff that I actually need to buy
And if it doesn’t work then money wasted? What does “working” even mean in this context i don’t know. Hopefully makes me earn more money because I need that.
Right now I am unable to work prolly cause some autism but who knows. I am unable to resist daily grind and emotions of commuting and working for more than a month without mental breakdown.
Will therapy fix that?
Therapy isn’t brain medicine. It’s different for lots of people, however to me it was an opportunity to practice skills I otherwise wouldn’t in a safe environment. The main skills I was able to practice were self reflection and emotional expression.
If I hadn’t gone to therapy, I would still be practically unable to open up to the people closest to me and I would still have my self image corrupted by delusions of self hatred from depression.
It’s sounds like fru-fru bullshit, but it does slowly make a difference. Eventually I realized that all my relationships became more healthy and my self confidence was significantly improved.
Lots of people -especially men in my experience- have no experience opening up and have a lot of deep fears about it and they end up self-isolating way more than is healthy. Therapy is the only real way where you can express yourself and get a sanity check without any kind of blowback.
So what I would just go there and talk about what for 150 dollars? They would sniff it out what I need or…? Or do I need to know what I need? How many 150 dollar meetings for figuring it out?
I need money and fearlessness, now give me that or at least ways to achieve it
Then there is also power I have been eyeing if I have these things but that can wait and will come with the first two
Fearlessness -> Money -> Power that’s how it looks like in the long run
However on my path I am brought down by some stupid things like daily commute problems or mental overload or anxiety. I just want to surgically cut them out
Generally when you start out, they have to get a feel for how you think and it’s mostly just you complaining about what stresses you out. After a few sessions, a decent therapist will have figured out some patterns in how you think and will be better able to direct the conversation so you end up talking about more of the situation than you typically think of on your own. From this it’s up to you to figure out how you want to solve the problem and/or what you want your goals to be.
I get the never ending struggle for more money. That’s a tough one let me know if you figure it out lol.
Fearlessness is probably a pretty unhealthy goal imo. Fear is a normal, healthy response that keeps you from making bad decisions. I think what you would really benefit from is: increased self-confidence, stress management skills, and good planning. You could definitely tell a therapist that you’re looking to become fearless or at least less fearful and they would be able to better look for what you might be hung up on.
I personally suffer from pretty bad anxiety and I know it holds me back, but I’ve become more confident in my own judgement and I’ve become better able to seek support from the people in my life thanks to therapy. Things haven’t turned around for me yet, but I feel better about the future and that’s a massive improvement on its own.
No I don’t want fear. I don’t want to feel fear ever again. Whatever it takes to do that I will do
Fear is a prison
I need to somehow crush that fearful part of me and kill it because it is broken
Okay I am afraid to come there to therapist actually first so maybe let’s start with that part
I probably shouldn’t tell you what your goals should be, that’s my bad. That said, you’ll eventually become less fearful on your path to fearlessness and it’ll be up to you to decide when it’s good enough.
If you’re afraid of therapy, I understand that. I don’t know you, but I was personally afraid of my inner thoughts causing people to reject me and I was also afraid that I may come to discover I’m worse than I thought. I’ll tell you how I came to see those things over time and maybe you feel something similar even if you can’t describe it and it may help. I unfortunately can’t do much more.
For the first fear (rejection) there’s two main things I clung on to: 1) There’s always someone worse than you out there and likely any therapist has already dealt with someone much worse than you or I. 2) Therapists are trained to deal with all kinds of people and manage whatever stress that may cause them. It’s why they cost so much money and that training is the difference between a therapist and a good listener. It’s also worth mentioning that they’re legally required to maintain confidentiality and unless you’re a danger to others, they’ll never spread anything you say.
For the second fear of realizing I was worse than I thought, that wasn’t really assuaged until I started. One thing most people come to realize as they become better at self reflection and self evaluation is that your imagination is almost always worse than the reality.
Whatever your particular fears are, it’ll take a measure of will power to overcome them no matter what. You should be proud then when you do go since you overcame your fear for your own betterment.
thank you, sincerely, this is very helpful comment and something that I don’t feel like maybe I deserve omggg I need to work on that lol
Why not someone making a nice comment, take it and appreciate it
I will pick some therapist tomorrow and we will see what kind of shit will come up, I bet it will feel fucking terrible
A good part of therapy is having the problems accurately identified with possible realistic goals for how to improve your mental situation.
I need money and fearlessness, now give me that or at least ways to achieve it
Self diagnosis often leads to the wrong conclusions. A perfect example is that there are already many rich, powerful, fearless assholes. Not only is adding you to their ranks unrealistic but it may not lead you to a future where you are content with yourself. Therapy can help you find whats wrong, and help you with the tools to know what to do about it. They aren’t going to “fix” you though. If you’re going into it with that mindset you’re going to come out exactly as you went in. Therapy is work. Be prepared to put in the work. It can be difficult, but its always worth it. The alternative is what you are now or possible even a worse version of yourself if you go down the wrong spiral.
I want money and want to have a mindset that will allow for a swift and easy accumulation of it so then I don’t need it anymore and can focus on higher luxuries such as some kind of abstract ethics or whatever
If that means being an asshole for some time then it’s okay as long as it is helping me achieve this minimum monetary security
I want money and want to have a mindset that will allow for a swift and easy accumulation
Almost nothing in life is swift and easy, and certainly not what you’re asking for here. You already know this. Since that’s the case are you okay with the possibility of going through your entire life still clinging to this idea without even getting close to it until you shut your eyes for the last time on your deathbed? I mean, its your life, but that sounds like a pretty sorry existence to me especially when there are alternatives available to you.
such as some kind of abstract ethics or whatever
You don’t need money to accomplish this.
I don’t need money to accomplish what? What I would want to accomplish actually… Well I want some nice ranch hobbit like house for once and then some nice garden but thats just one of them houses. And also some kind of nice boat
I want to have voyages on the ocean on a boat. Like self sufficient boat
I want to live in the New Zealand with a nice view maybe
That all sounds like lots of money required to me. I mean this is the things I really would enjoy in life
My port would be in New Zealand and my house too, at least one of them
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Online therapy is good. One of the major downsides is it doesn’t get you going outside though, which is a major benefit of therapy at a clinic.
Other than that, make more friends and chat it out with them (join a run club in your city, for example) or use an AI therapist. There’s a lot of people who will shreik and yell at these options, but if you have no other options, they’re great
I think people will hate me tbh, that’s why I don’t join clubs or stuff like that
Not even discord servers. Not even talking to similar people or within the group that should like me cause if they hate me that would be crushing if you know what I mean
Hence I often get to know people who already hate me like alt right or some bullies, toxic ppl, because that is… less risky? Somehow. I don’t truly care about them so if they hate me this feels like nothing. but if someone who I really look up to would hate me… well, that would be rather extremely painful
Actually that would probably make me hate them psychotically as a some kind of subjective defense of identity. And what is understood by me as ‘hate’ is very sensitive. Merely sideways stare that I would interpret too much will make me go off to some deep end (but only if it is from someone in some group that I should belong to)
If it is some aggressive looking, young male with bald head and ugly stare then I will just feel like on a safari and see the dangerous wildlife that should be avoided. Scary of course, adrenaline going but not something that lasts in my mind
I am not afraid of wolves or tigers. But what I am afraid of is a woman that will thrust a knife in my heart and kill it
Yeah. I’m going to say keep trying with the therapy thing.
Check your local library and city/county department of health, they may run free or low cost group therapy sessions.
Why in god’s name should you need therapy for writing about clay sculpting?!
They thought I am wrong even though I am right
What? We need more context.
Go through a Christian program. Super cheap or fee
I am trans, nonbinary, xenogendrr, they gonna crucify me or something lmao
But a solid advice otherwise
I’m an atheist, I got therapy after a divorce for $50 a session through a Christian program in my city. They don’t care who you are and if they do then they’re going against their license and can get sued/fired.
I don’t know I am afraid though I am not very resistant to hostility
While I don’t really condone nor would I personally do this…I have heard of people using chatgpt as their therapist. There are so many questions to ask about this method of seeking therapy, but leaving those in the dark, I hear that it can be extremely helpful. Ymmv.
P.s. I hate that I’m recommending this…
No. Just no.
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