• HikingVet@lemmy.ca
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      2 days ago

      Have fun with that…

      I have called out rude people both politely and bluntly. Always is a conflict. So, just prepared to get into it.

      • givesomefucks@lemmy.world
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        2 days ago

        Lots of people are intentionally rude, hoping someone says something because they’re addicted to rage and want to be “attacked” for something they feel is acceptable.

        They’ll immediately escalate, and especially in America you have no idea who has a gun. Making a reasonable request can be met with screaming and if you respond in kind then they feel “threatened”.

        Doesn’t really matter what happens at trial, a crazy person that was looking for conflict just pulled their gun. The next 5 minutes matter more than the next five decades.

        This means their current behavior becomes normalized, so now everyone is acting like it, people respond to anything with aggression because acting mentally unstable works. It makes the other person go away until you do it to someone even more unhinged.

        A polite request to someone like that is a sign of weakness and guarantees an escalation, so even reasonable people stop being polite and start with direction.

        The craziest are directing society.

        It’s not new and it’s not the first time, but it rarely works out well for society.

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          I don’t disagree with anything you said, but I also won’t live in fear of the crazies with guns (police excluded because holy fuck they will murder you and your family, including your dog, without remorse).

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            1 day ago

            That matters at the trial…

            But like I said, in that situation what happens in the next five minutes matters more than anything else. Whether that unhinged person decides to shoot you or not.

      • randompasta@lemmy.today
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        2 days ago

        I do by joining into the conversation. People get offended but shut up, walk away, or call the person back later. In an airport or worse yet, an airplane I don’t worry about the conflict. On a subway, different story.

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        2 days ago

        I have, too, depending on the size of the person rude.

        It’s weird… almost like rude people don’t like to be called rude and are happy to be rude in response to being called rude.

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      23 hours ago

      In theory a great idea. But more and more people are walking around with guns and more and more people believe violence is the answer to everything and more and more people are just completely unhinged because they have main character syndrome. I’m not risking getting shot.

    • corsicanguppy@lemmy.ca
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      Calling out rude people needs to be normalized.

      “It looks like it’s hard to hear when you use it like that. Why don’t you use it like a phone?”