That is pretty intense! :O i do wish you the best with your recovery! I dont know how i’d feel if i ended up injuring my hands like that, but i do think scars are pretty awesome. They prove that you have overcome something in life and that you’re still alive and kicking. I really like my scar where my breast used to be. I’m forever changed, but the change let on my body is a reminder that i survived something difficult. If you find the mental energy for it at some point, you could look at the scars on your hand in the same way. You survived something pretty wild and you have a cool story to go with it.

Yeah, i think itsjust a good thing to say next time you go to a barber, that you just want yiour hair cut and no massage. It’s totally fair to do that. I also think your family has a point. And whuke i dont know you at all, i do sense that you might be stuck in this loop of negative reenforcement. I totally get it, because I have been in one of those before, especially when I had depression in my younger days and everything seemed bleak. It was like all the good things around me were invisible and I only noticed all the bad. It’s not even something i did deliberately when i was really down. It just became a thing because my brain was so stuck on my misery that i didn’t want anything to be better. It wanted to selfdestruct, which is why depression is nothing to scuff at.

Have you been checked for depression, my friend? Maybe you need someone or something to help you guide you out of this spiral you are in because it can’t be fun to feel this awful all the time? You deserve to be happy and to find something to look forward to even when things are difficult like they are right now <3 it doesn’t surlrise me that you’re struggling when you feel like everything is crumbling around you. It’s hard to be hopeful when you feel lost.

I think in my case, I have already gone through what to me was the hardest time of my life when i was young, so everything that comes after that, is somehow less awful than the bad thing in my youth. Even if they are objectively worse now in some ways. I feel better prepared for hard times and i know that after a period of hardship, there always comes something better from it eventually. Every single bad thing that has ever happened to me has resulted in something good later in life either directly or indirectly because i made different choices and learned new lessons.

Every bad, abusive person I have met, has guided me toward finding good people and to appreciate good people a lot more thab i would have, if i had never met bad people.

And i also think that one of the hardest lessons i have had to learn is to let go when i get hurt or go through something hard. I’m definitely not perfect in that area, but it’s sometbing i work on.

You only get one life and while that life is gonna test you, it is in the end up to you to make that lemonade out of those lemons! It’s okay to upset. It’s okay to grieve and rage and all those things when shit is hard, but when it becomes a sport to selfdestruct, that is when you need to reach out and find the help you can’t give yourself so you have a chance to enjoy the time you have left! You really never know when you will never again hug the people you love the most or feel the sun on your face or hearing a piece of music that touches your soul. Depression is the mental equivalent of the immune system attacking the body and it doesn’t have to succeed.

I think you deserve to be happy, friend!

Ouch, the hands is also a pretty sensitive area! Does it hurt or do you have pain meds? Sucks that you’re not getting compensated and yeah, it doesnt sound like it’d be worth it if you’d have to use a lawyer @,@ that would be so expensive. I do hope you’ll heal up well and still be able to use your hands. Does it hurt to type at all? :o

I mean, i have heard that if a massage is actually working, the muscles should be sore afterwards. I know it sounds super counterproductive, but apparently that is how it works lol. I had an appointment with a fysiotherapist this week and she massaged the muscletissue ariund the area where my breast was cut off, and afterwards, the nerveendings were stinging like little needles and the muscle was a bit sore, which is a good thing. Dunno how it works with scalp massages, though, but there are muscles there too, so maybe your barber hit some tense spots and they will gradually relax over the next couple of days? I hope that will be the case!

Yeah it sucked, and i am still a bit sad about it, but maybe my sibs and I just need a bit of time, since it was a rough day for everybody. It’s not that everybody is now fighting and hate each other. Not at all. Just that a couple of them spoke past each other which lead to some strong reactions. Most of us are still on pretty good footing. I was down about what happened because i had really hoped that things would go smoothly and they did for the most part, until they didn’t. And you are so right! There is always a chance to meet up again.

I dont know if I’d call life/nature cruel. I think it’s very freeing to know that nature has no opinions and no preferences toward anyone. It just is. It makes me feel less anxious about things to know that all of our human made problems don’t really matter when you zoom out. :D

Oh my god! 😲 that is awful! Where did you get the burn? I hope nowhere close to your face, friend! I guess the compensation process takes a bit longer to sort through than sending out the bill, lol. Oh man what terrible luck. Is the injured area going to be okay?

I understand that you feel so drained. I would too, if I was in your exact situation. I really hope things turn around for you soon and that you will be able to look back at this period of time and laugh at the absurdity. That’s sometimes how I cope when I feel like it’s all a bit too much.

For myself, and despite trying to hold on to a positive outlook, my confidence that i built up during my 8 good years, is mostly gone. I actually feel embarrassed that I ever believed in myself and that I would do well. I don’t know if I will ever get my confidence back, tbh, but i try to appreciate what I have and accept the things I cannot change. Which is hard.

My meeting with my siblings, that i mentioned, also went well until it didn’t and now i don’t know what will happen in the future. It has affected me a lot this week, but I try to accept that things are going the way they are going.

As always, I turn to my garden when i get sad. It makes me happy even now when all the plants are slowly going into hibernation and the colors dim as the flowers wither. All I can think of is how thrilled I am about the next season and how much the garden will grow and bloom next year.

Nature just does its thing and it has no opinions on anything and it doesn’t care about my petty little problems. It just is. It just does. The endless loop of change. Growth and decay and growth again. It comforts me that I live right in the middle of something that is so much bigger than me and all of humanity together.

I hope you recover well and i really hope you have some good luck in your near future, friend. You deseve it!

It makes me happy to see Musk triggered. Can dish it, can’t take it. What an alpha.

Giver mening!

Vildt nok at det har taget så lang tid at opdatere det. Har længe undret mig over hvorfor der ikke var proportionale verdenskort. Som en, der godt kan lide at hyggetegne fiktive kort og glor rigtig meget på kort i sin fritid, så har det altid irriteret mig at mine referencer ikke er proportionale, da det er sådan jeg selv foretrækker at tegne mine egne kort.

Ecosia on the phone

Duckduckgo on the computer.

Haha, er du gal det lyder kedeligt ;)

Det er skam en ting xD selvom det er dødironisk, så har jeg faktisk på et tidspunkt været med til at formidle vejledningsmateriale til undervisere, der ville implementere digitale værktøjer i undervisningen. Det er en svær en, for synes det er fint at børnene lærer det basale når det kommer til at bruge en computer og finde og verificere kilder på nettet, men hvis det er en del af al undervisning hele tiden og der ikke er nok taktil læring, så kan jeg godt frygte at meget af læringen ikke rigtig får sat sig fordi computeren er en distraherende satan uanset hvor meget man skralder den ind til benet. - Og ja, det er sandsynligvis en kende tørt for ungerne at lære om mappenavigation og markering af fremmedord i fagtekster på computeren. Det vil jeg ikke udelukke ;b

Synes det er super positivt at I prøver at få fjernet tablets fra undervisningen. Det virker også helt gakket at bruge tablets i undervisningen. Gad vide, hvor udbredt det er? Er helt enig med dig i at det ikke giver mening at give dem tablets og at rigtig IT-undervisning er bedre givet ud fordi de rent faktisk bliver udfordret og lærer noget ved at bakse med en computer.

Aner ikke hvordan det ser ud med tech-problemer i undervisningen, men tror ikke din datter er gal på den i forhold til hvor meget tid, der spildes på problemer.

På min arbejdsplads er det meget, meget almindeligt at lorter ikke virker når, der skal holdes oplæg. Kan kun forestille mig hvilket mareridt det er i en skoleklasse, hvor alle skal have computere og tablets og storskærm og hvad ved jeg. Det er jo også med til at forstyrre børnenes indlæring, hvis der hele tiden er afbrydelser pga tech-problemer 🤦‍♀️

Yeah, I don’t mind people having strong beliefs and all that. Like you, it’s healthy to have your views tested. It’s just the way that conversation is being shut down on lemmy in such a militant and zero tolerance kind of way, that makes me less thrilled about the space. I think there are lots of good discussions around here, but I feel a lot less free to voice any opinion at all compared to other spaces online, because anything and everything you say WILL be twisted into some weird bigoted interpretation by some of the most psychotic types of people I have ever met online, lol. So I hold back a lot, compared to what I used to do, because I don’t really feel like being accused of tenthousand different crimes by a couple of nutcases that totally derails my points and intentions everytime I try to join any discussion on the wider network.

Let’s lock horns again! Dunno when it happens, but it probably will, friend! Always know that it’s not personal on my end and I have always liked your username. Wrens are some of my favourite birds xD See you around!

It doesn’t have to make sense as long as you’re silenced and shamed xD

I feel bad saying this, but it’s not even a well made nazi uniform. It looks so lame and the color of the fabric is all wrong. But I guess, in this case, being historically accurate isnt really the flex it usually would be xD

Det er allerede i gang. Det lokale sportsliv, klubber og alt sådan noget er fyldt op med børn. Alle børn jeg kender går til sport eller spejder og de unge jeg kender, er meget aktive i deres lokalmiljøer. Mine yngste niecer går til alt muligt og mine venners børn er også aktive. En af mine veninders datter er lige startet til ballet som 3årig 🥰

Men det med sportsklubber osv. er faktisk blevet mere og mere populært i de senere år. Jeg ser det rigtig meget, der hvor jeg bor. Det betyder selvfølgelig ikke at det gør sig gældende alle steder, eller at alle børn og unge er aktive irl med sport og sociale aktiviteter. Men jeg ved at den nuværende forældregeneration som jeg kender, er meget opmærksomme på deres børns trivsel og bekymrede for deres fremtid. Jeg tror kun at der kommer mere af det her når generationen under min begynder at blive forældre og har et endnu mere raffineret syn på børn og teknologi end os ældre generationer.

Det føles meget dystert lige nu og jeg er selv meget bekymret for nulevende teenagere, som virkelig er blevet tabt på gulvet, men jeg tror ikke at det er for sent. Tror du har helt ret i at der kommer en meget tydelig og synlig modreaktion, når der er gået tid nok.

Trump is single white female-ing Putin, I see.

I was replying to a comment on feddit about children not reading nowadays and how shite i have become at reading since I got a tablet. Then I put my phone aside and started reading a book, got distracted by my own thoughts and wanted to reach out to one of my siblings whom i worry about, grabbed my phone and now I’m here.

👏👏👏👏

Jeg ved faktisk ikke hvad standarden er når det kommer til læsning, kun at der er forskel på de folk jeg kender, der enten arbejder på eller er forældre til børn på forskellige skoler. Så jeg er dig lige et svar skyldig, der. 😅

Og ja, det er ret trist med de unge. :/ Jeg ved ikke om det er sådan for alle unge i alle folkeskoler, kun at den lærer jeg kender, som arbejder med de store, oplever at ingen af dem gider læse og når man kigger på statestikkerne så taler det desværre ind i at det nok er ret udbredt.

Og jeg forstår det jo godt. Hvorfor læse, hvis man bare kan se en video eller spille computer eller sådan noget? Jeg får ikke læst/lyttet til helt lige så mange bøger som jeg plejede. På trods af at jeg aldrig har syntes mine læsevaner har været gode nok, så kan jeg jo godt se i bakspejlet, at jeg næsten altid har haft gang i en bog løbende til enten at lytte til når jeg var ude at gå eller til at snegle mig igennem fra lænestolen (er en hysterisk langsom læser). Men jeg skal ærligt sige at efter at jeg fik en ipad i forbindelse med mit arbejde, så rører jeg næsten ikke bøger længere.

Prøver at bygge noget læselyst op igen, men det meste af tiden orker jeg det sgu ikke og vil hellere stene på ipaden når jeg holder fri.

Og hvis en gammel rotte som mig kan forfalde til det her lort, så kan jeg ikke forestille mig hvor altopslugende det er for de unge.

Thank you for proving my point.

I’m childless by choice, so I don’t have any lived advice. I just wanted to say that you sound like a great dad and your boy sounds like a healthy little duracell bunny! All the best to you and your little family!

From what I have observed around me, you’re currently in the hardest stretch of parenthood in terms of the physical and mental toll from not having any time to yourself, but it comes back to you gradually as the little one grows and starts to explore the world. By the time where you get most of your freedom back, you will do anything to have those early years back. The paradox of parental love <3

“Swastikas sold separately” made me laugh hard enough to almost pee myself.

Good thing we dont have wallmart where i live. Easy boycott.👍

Jeg ved ikke hvor udbredt det er, for jeg hører forskellige ting fra forskellige skoler og fra både lærere og forældre, men der er skoler, hvor børnene læser helt absurd meget. Jeg kender en, hvis børns skole har en ugentlig biblioteksdag, hvor børnene låner alt muligt og kværner den ene bog efter den anden. Der bliver gjort ekstremt meget ud af at fremelske børnenes læselyst der og mit indtryk er at dette er tilfældet på mange skoler, faktisk.

Der, hvor der kan opstå problemer er, hvis forældrene derhjemme ikke gider læse sammen med børnene. Højtlæsning er en grundsten i at vække børns læselyst og hvis mor og far ikke gider og ligeledes bruger mere tid på deres telefoner end at læse bøger, jamen så er det jo eksemplet der bliver sat derhjemme. Min bekendte, har før nævnt en irritation over hvordan nogle af de andre forældre ikke gider læse højt for deres børn eller læse bøger sammen med dem ala en bogklub, hvor de læser samme bog som deres barn og snakker om handlingen bagefter. Det er der nogle forældre, der simpelthen har den holdning at det er kedeligt at læse og de kan ikke se hvorfor de skulle bruge tid på at læse højt for deres børn når det er så kedeligt. Andre gør det ikke fordi det ikke rigtigt er faldet dem ind at det er noget de burde gøre.

Selv, hvis dette ikke er et problem, og forældrene er ivrige læsere, så er mit indtryk, at der sker et skift når børnene får telefoner i hånden og begynder at komme på sociale medier. Jeg kender en lærer, der arbejder med de store elever og vedkommende siger at de store elever hader at læse. Vedkommende arbejder på en skole, hvor de fleste elever kommer fra resourcesvage familier, men om det er der problemet ligger eller om det er børnenes alder og deres evne til at tilgå sociale apps eller en blanding, det ved jeg ikke rigtig. Læreren har sagt flere gange at, der er sket et kæmpe skred i elevernes engagement inde for de sidste seks år. Vedkommende har arbejdet på den samme skole i mere end ti år, og har aldrig oplevet noget lignende. De klasser vedkommende arbejder med for tiden er de mest ugidelige klasser i vedkommendes karriere. Personen har før haft problematiske klasser, men hvor det før plejede at være fire-fem elever, der var fagligt udfordret, er det nu dem alle sammen uden untagelse.