He’s a father of a 28-year-old son and he’s hurting. A retired police officer, he proudly voted for Donald Trump every time he ran and never hid his political beliefs from his family. “My son and his wife say that since I’m a fan of Trump they’re no fan of mine and cut me off,” he said. “Now I can’t see my only grandchild who I was so close to. It’s crazy and it’s tragic.”
It’s also increasingly common. The 2024 election spatchcocked the nation, widening a rift that was exposed in 2016 and put in an even sharper gulf four years later. Now, the hyper-partisan politics in the shadow of the 2024 election is breaking the bonds of families to a greater extent than ever before.
Nobody really gets disowned for voting for a particular candidate because voting is private and done in secret. You can lie about who you voted for and nobody can even prove it.
People actually get disowned for constantly talking about voting for a particular candidate, even after their friends and family ask them to stop.
They made their choice to put their politics before their family and need to cry publicly about it to get that sweet persecution complex.
Gullibility and ignorant malice are an epidemic. Hate and stupidity are an epidemic. Estrangement is self-preservation and a symptom. We aren’t boomers, we don’t stay in abusive relationships because “that be how the world be”.
Well said.
Maybe its just that I was disowned in 2015 for being trans, but I find it hard to be sympathetic. We choose who we vote for and if your loved ones say your political views are so reprehensible that they won’t speak to you, either take the cue or accept that you shit the bed and now you have to lie in it
Social psychologists have long understood that merely identifying with a group in competitive contexts can lead people to view those outside the group less favorably.
Ah yes. It’s because they are on the other team that proud Trump supporters are being ostracized. The fact Trump and his allies have blatantly advertised goals that are dangerous, damaging, bigoted, hateful, and generally horrific… and their poorly hidden goals are even more so… has nothing to do with it. It’s just competition bringing out the worst in the rest of us.
I mean, ingroup and outgroup biases are well demonstrated phenomena.
But uh. Sometimes things aren’t JUST biases. Sometimes the other team is, well and truly, bad and worthy of our scorn.
I have broken all contact with my mother and her Trump loving husband. Best decision I’ve made in a long time. I personally don’t want them influencing my children with their frankly crappy attitudes and shitty politics.
I am recently estranged from a narc parent.
Unfortunately in my case, it isn’t both of them. I have tried to explain to the other why I can’t roll with it, but it has been very difficult. Collateral damage, but I feel like I have no other option.
Scruples are about the only thing a lot of us have anymore.
This reminds me of https://www.issendai.com/psychology/estrangement/missing-missing-reasons.html
At least the reason for estrangement is clearly not missing in the situation(s) being discussed.
It’s crazy and it’s tragic.
take a drink every time a narc parent uses the words ‘weird’ or ‘crazy’ to describe being treated like the horrible person that they are.
I’m having a hard time relinking narc to mean narcissist and not narcotics in my mind. 😔
Two-thirds of survey respondents agree that ending contact with a family member because of political beliefs is not justified and that most family fights over politics could be easily resolved.
Ah yes those pesky, abstract “political” beliefs shouldn’t get in the way of family. Such esoteric ideals like
- I believe in human rights.
- Rapists should not be in power.
- Nazis are evil.
Who could ever let a silly disagreement over politics spoil a relationship? /s
It’s hard to be told “everything will be fine” when much of the incoming administration believes trans people aren’t real/shouldn’t exist/are all groomers. And it’s really difficult to even associate with folks who voted for this and refuse to see the coming storm.
Fucken, not to compare everything to nazis but it is LITERALLY the “first they came for x, but i am not x so i said nothing”, only it’s the fucking PARENTS hearing THEIR KIDS say “I don’t feel safe” and saying nothing except “can you believe my crazy children?”
I don’t understand Dem supporters cutting off family that are GOP supporters. Both parties oppose human rights, enable rapists in power, and support currently arming Nazis (Congress had to withdraw a ban on arming Nazis in order to send arms to far-right groups in Ukraine).
If you’re a leftist opposing both fascist rightwing parties, you’d have a leg to stand on. But Dem supporters cutting off GOP supporting family just feels like that meme of spiderman pointing at himself. Anyone supporting either pro-genocide party is in no position to be criticizing the political beliefs of others.
Assuming this is a good faith argument, I’ll throw in: Some thoughtful, leftist commentary claims that the Democrats and the Republicans are fundamentally the same behind the scenes, with identity politics as the window dressing to distinguish them, and keep the lower classes divided.
Well, look at what we have here: Identity politics successfully dividing the lower classes. The two parties do differ quite a bit in some ways, and the window dressing is causing the estrangement.
How do they differ in any way besides rhetoric?
How do they differ in any way besides rhetoric?
In the most important way of all by far. Republicans always do gigantic tax cuts for the rich and corporations. Dems always raise taxes on the rich and/or corporations. All 3 of the most recent Dem presidents accomplished the latter.
Why are taxation rates the most important thing to pay attention to? Because wealth inequality is related to and driving almost all of our other problems. If someone payed attention only to tax rates on the wealthy being cut/increased then they would understand 95% of politics.
It’s arguable, but they use the rhetoric because it works on their supporters.
Yeah, but I don’t care about their rhetoric. I care about how they govern, and in that respect there’s no difference between the GOP and the Dems.
Okay, but your first comment referenced supporters, who are different people than the electeds or party leaders. I might suggest re-phrasing to say, “I believe that Dem supporters have the same facts, thoughts, and perspective on the parties as I do, and as such, I find them morally culpable for every action of the party leaders.” That’s a different thing than not understanding how they can behave the way they do.
Nope. Both sides are not the same. Not even close. I won’t dignify you comment nor give myself carpal tunnel typing out just how different they are.
Trump is directly responsible for the poor and delayed response to COVID and furthering the validity of fringe anti mask claims, making him also directly responsible for the deaths of hundreds of thousands of people.
Yup. And Biden is responsible for hundreds of thousands more, ending Covid assistance, forcing people back to the office, and implementing Trump’s shitty “stop counting sick people” idea to pretend it was over. There’s still people dying today of severe covid, with it as one of the top killers of young people now.
Prosecute them both for these deaths.
nd in that respect there’s no difference between the GOP and the Dems.
You mean besides the $4.5 trillion in taxes on the wealthy and/or corporations? Musk fucked up twitter by burning just a mere $0.044 trillion.
Unfortunately it’s a side effect of the team sports of politics. I vote Dem but they obviously have problems to fix. My family mainly votes RNC. I can talk to some on an individual level and get to agreements about political topics. Usually after agreeing on something they will reset back to talking points.
I understand why some people will cut off toxic families, but it doesn’t help change the situation. I feel obligated to try to talk sense into people while I still have some patience. Pushing each group further into their echo chamber just helps our oppressors.
Arming Nazis & ISIS, supporting genocide, escalating to hot wars with nuclear superpowers, breaking records on oil extractions, breaking records on deportations, working to privatize Medicare, etc. Saying the Dems have “some problems to fix” is putting it mildly. If you judge their actions, instead of their words, there’s no difference between the two.
You’re in no position to be giving your family any grief while you’re still voting for Dems. Pot calling the kettle black.
In the US there are only two party choices that matter. We are forced to vote for evil and must choose the lesser. I agree with you in principal but Trump is an especially egregious choice.
When both evils support genocide, there is no lesser. The only reason these two maintain their power is because people like you convince everyone that’s all that’s possible.
The only reason these two maintain their power is because people like you convince everyone that’s all that’s possible.
Is because those are the two with the support of the vast majority of voters and we don’t have a parliamentary system that would allow for more than 2 viable parties. By not voting for a serious candidate, all you are doing is setting yourself up to be a lifetime loser in politics.
Not to be reductionist of the genocide in Gaza, it is undoubtedly evil and both parties deserve to be labeled as such for supporting it, but to speak as though that’s the only issue in this world and the only yardstick we can use to measure both parties is itself reductionist. And the reason they maintain their power is that the system is so structured as to ensure it. And that’s not to say there is nothing we can do about that (for one, elimination of FPTP voting), but as of the 2024 election the reality was that only one of those two parties would win. And to claim that recognizing that in itself is the sole cause of it is silly.
It’s not the only thing happening. But it is the worst thing happening. It’s the worst thing that can happen.
I thought we all agreed genocide is the worst crime possible.
If you judge their actions, instead of their words, there’s no difference between the two.
Dems did literally none of those things. Your conclusions are worthless because your facts are too.
Yes. Thank for agreeing with me that the Dems have some problems to fix. I think their main problem is they put corporate interest over citizens. I think that will solve many of the other issues that you mentioned. Would you like to suggest something else for them to focus on? Or is your complaint that they aren’t perfect?
I don’t got time for doomers that just want to blame others. We (humans) have enough blame to spread around. Fix each other and help each other grow. Don’t wall off everyone else.
Also thank you AGAIN for agreeing with me (even if your reason isn’t 100). I’m NOT giving them grief. I am engaging them with conversations. I can do this because I don’t let perfect be the enemy of good. That just helps fascists.
I guess my confusion is what do you think should happen? Then whatever you say as the answer. YOU go make that happen. You can keep complaining about other groups not doing anything, or you can get involved yourself. Join a different group, if the current ones aren’t up to your standards. Start a new group. Try to make the world a better place for you and your loved ones by trying to make your goals a reality.
Hmm yes 2 and 4 are both numbers under 10, so they are the same number. I guess 4 is prime now.
Once you’re far enough right to support genocide, absolutely. There’s no worthwhile distinction.
Once you’re far enough right to support genocide, absolutely. There’s no worthwhile distinction.
The way I see it, there is no worthwhile distinction between supporting Trump and not opposing Trump. And since Biden gave Israel an ultimatum over Gaza and Trump never would have done that, then by either supporting Trump or not opposing Trump WITH YOUR ACTIONS, you are enabling genocide more than the people who opposed Trump.
Biden is in open violation of domestic and international in continuing to arm this genocide.
And two genocides is the same as one genocide.
“Choosing bonds of identity over familial obligations” has judgemental connotations.
The thing about “bonds of identity” is that those people respect your right to exist and your personal agency. The family that deserves to be cut off does not.
If you’ve had it explained to you multiple times why the decisions you make are harming the people you claim to love, and you don’t change your behavior, don’t be surprised when that person you say you care about tells you to piss up a rope.
And for some of us we’ve built a culture around it because family has historically failed us as a community
Yes, the grandfather is hurting and is clearly the victim. It cannot be due to his own choices and his children calling him out for being a shit person.
ACAB
he proudly voted for Donald Trump every time he ran and never hid his political beliefs from his family.
This sounds like an extremely euphemistic way to say he would not shut the fuck up about Donald Trump and his political beliefs. And his family likely gave him every chance in the world to quit that shit, and when they eventually just stopped wanting to be around him, he blamed everything but his own shitty behavior.
I don’t know if that’s what happened in his case, but it certainly sounds like it.
How Assholes Have Become an Epidemic in America
Like so many problems in modern America, you can trace it back to Reagan.
Back in the day, it was important for politicians to try and maintain a civil tone with one another in public, no matter how much they despised each other behind the scenes. Reagan publicly used ‘Liberal’ as a pejorative and implied that those who disagreed with him weren’t really patriotic.
I just want to point out that McCarthyism existed before Reaganism. But he was a big fucking fan of it.
And the Federalists and Democratic Republicans were wildly confrontational.
Calendar on Adams in 1800…
“Ye will judge without regard to the prattle of a president, the prattle of that strange compound of ignorance and ferocity, of deceit and weakness; without regard to that hideous hermaphroditical character, which has neither the force and firmness of a man, nor the gentleness and sensibility of a woman.”
That’s just one example of many quotes from that time. There was some wildly vitriolic mud slinging in early American politics.
You stop at “mud slinging”? Mofuggas brought guns to a fistfight on congressional/senatorial floors. “Mud” ain’t the half of it, and anyone who’s not familiar with this history is gonna be doubly surprised when these psychos today cosplay as their favorite fictional version of said founders. 😶🌫️
Nah, the absolute god king and bastard father of ratbag politics is richard fucking nixon
These days, it’s more like they’re literally buddies behind the scenes while expressing partisan vitriol in public for show. It’s fucking gross.
One thing people don’t realize. Back in the day, travel was difficult. Elected officials would stay in Washington for months at a time. Members of Congress [R and D] routinely hung out together. These days they spend the weekends in their districts courting votes.
Another problem is the weaponizing of C-SPAN. Before 24 hour coverage a speech on the floor was routinely ignored. A Memeber could talk down a Bill on the floor, knowing his local paper would cover it, and then make a quiet deal behind the scenes. Now everyone is forced into intractable positions.
You cut out half of what he said.
Oh no! People are socialially ostracizing fascists.
Anyways, I hope it doesn’t snow today.
