I got bullied a lot. The only clique that didn’t bully me, was them. They were very ride or die people. They always made me laugh, my first ever crush was on one of them, but I never told him. Then, years after school, I’d get random people from that subculture helping me. A bunch of them talked me out of suicide. I didn’t even know them, but that’s what they did. And now that subculture’s just…gone. I know those people still exist, obviously, but every time I think about it, or watch old videos involving people of that subculture, I feel a wave of warmth followed by emptiness. I never got to thank some of them for making my teenage years my golden years. I felt safe opening up to them emotionally. Otherwise, I was a closed book. My family are very “get on with it” “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about” people.
I forgot to put my age, but I’m a woman, and 30.
Maybe that subculture died out because it was taboo to mention the subculture’s name, for some reason.
At this point I’m convinced it’s either juggalos or Nazis.
Well, Nazi subculture definitely hasn’t died out, so…
Juggalos haven’t died out either. !juggalos@lemmy.world
Maybe it’s a real fight club!
The subculture:
I relate to this somewhat.
I discovered in junior high that the so-called ‘freaks’ were way nicer people than the other cliques, and I loved their fierce independence. Ended up making friends and sticking with them, even though most were ostracized socially.
I hope they’ve all gotten to live good lives.
What subculture?
I think that leaving them unnamed was an intentional choice and that if they were going to tell us, the author would have by now.
Goth, nineties
OP is probably just referring to some emo/punk kids from school. It seems she misses having a support group and is having trouble finding community in their 30s. Which is completely normal as the making friends in your 30s is complete ayuss. OP, if you’re reading this, your subculture may have died but there are still helpful groups of people out there.
Who you calling them?
I was gonna guess juggalos, but since they are still around. You’re a little too young, but could the subculture be that moment in the late 90s when swing and ska got cool for a week.
At least that’s the impression that I get.
NEVER HAD TO KNOCK ON WOOD
I understand. Hip hop died in the last decade.
Y’all are trippin trying to “guess the subculture”. That’s beside the point. It could just be “the folks who hung out at Jo’s house after school” and it doesn’t really matter what mass-market shows they watched or music they listened to. The point is that it was a specific set that OP knew and who helped OP out.
OP, I’m happy you found a bunch of people to help you out back then. I hope you find more people who are understanding and supportive in the same way that they were.
You shouldn’t seek advisement if you cant disclose the information that defines the problem you are trying to handle. You dont need to tell everyone who “them/they” are but you can’t expect constructive input when you can’t describe who one of the two involved parties are. The best you can expect is advice or input that is given in broad stroke that are specific to no one problem.
This is off my chest. People are here to write their feeling off, not to get constructive input.
OP isn’t asking for advice though 😄 Just here to tell us about their experience. While I’m curious as everyone else is, it could be something banal as Kaulitz twin fanclub.
