• Frozengyro@lemmy.world
      9·
      3 days ago

      I can say with 100% certainly I’ve never lived next to you, cause the animals that have lived next to me…

    • Aneb@lemmy.world
      3·
      2 days ago

      Are you my ex husband or my ex roommate? Or are you my sister? Apparently everyone in my life gets to scream but me 🥹. I only get loud when playing in Halo multiplayer. God I miss kickboxing

  • SolarMonkey@slrpnk.netEnglish
    461·
    3 days ago

    This is privileged tantrum-having.

    My tantrums were never property destructive. I grew up poor and I would have been murdered for that. I rage plenty, but never outwardly toward objects.

    My tantrums, instead, were and have continued to be personally destructive. I make people hate me, I ruin all the things that matter.

    • Signtist@bookwyr.meEnglish
      11·
      3 days ago

      Yeah, if I’d have destroyed something in a tantrum, I just wouldn’t have had that thing anymore. It didn’t even matter if we could afford a replacement or not - I wouldn’t get anything my parents couldn’t trust me with.

  • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
    7·
    2 days ago

    That feeling when 30 is the expected time to have kids already and you are reminded you are not allowed to ever responsibly raise children of your own in this one life you get on this dying planet.

    I hate this world

  • dejected_warp_core@lemmy.world
    28·
    3 days ago

    65: Kids are out of the house, you have some money to fix a broken door, but you’re just too damn tired to go breaking things or screaming about it. Also, the reason for the tantrum happened 30 years ago. So you tell your family a pointless, rambling, mind-numbingly boring story about it at Thanksgiving, instead.

  • ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world
    13·
    2 days ago

    Throwing a tantrum as a parent: Just tell your kid you’re strict, then scream at them for every little thing.

  • Ledivin@lemmy.world
    451·
    3 days ago

    What the fuck is your door made of? If an angry kick breaks it, I promise it ain’t $300

  • Skullgrid@lemmy.world
    28·
    3 days ago

    feeling good about my parenting skills, my kid’s tantrums are getting shorter and shorter. she screams, cries, kicks her legs, all on the floor. She only gets anything once she starts to be calm.

      • Skullgrid@lemmy.world
        33·
        3 days ago

        Let’s say she wants to play with crayons when it’s time to eat. If she starts throwing a tantrum, I lie her down on the ground and don’t pay attention to her, except to say “we will hug and go get your fruit when you are calm”. When the tantrum is finished, I ask her “are you calm?” and if she says yes, we hug, I clean her up, and give her the fruit.

        Until she calms down, I don’t pay attention to her, except to re-iterate that she will have more stiumulus once she is calm.

  • Codilingus@sh.itjust.works
    19·
    3 days ago

    Hi, my names Kyle, I’m 6 white Monster drinks deep, and I’m ready for a crashout if I lose this next CoD match and derank.

    • Skullgrid@lemmy.world
      27·
      3 days ago

      Lol, people can’t afford to have kids by 30.

      I can guarantee you

      1. People have kids whether they can afford them or not
      2. Different levels of social integration lead to different support structures for child-rearing which leads to different life stages when people can/do have kids at different financial points.
    • boonhet@sopuli.xyz
      1·
      2 days ago

      Had mine at 28, now 30. The kid has been the most affordable thing about my life the last 2 years. It wasn’t the kid that demanded to switch strollers on a weekly basis and it wasn’t the kid who threatened suicide and all kinds of other things when I didn’t buy shit.

      I’m making do on 50 hours of work a month, give or take, until I can get my kid to reliably stay at kindergarten for multiple hours per day. My ex is not paying any child support AND is still getting the small monthly national child support payments that every kid gets until the age of 18 or 19 or something. It does help that I have a family home that was empty already so I only need to pay to heat this big old house (not cheap) and I have some support from my mom who occasionally helps out with clothes and other expenses.

      When I also had to pay the entire upkeep of my ex and her other child (who, to be fair, also didn’t cost that much to feed and clothe, despite my ex only buying Nike, Guess and other overpriced brands for her), I was working 200+ hours a month AND getting essentially an entire national median salary in parental pay (first 1.5 years after child is born) and still had to keep borrowing more and more money from friends. Would’ve been enough money to COMFORTABLY raise 5-6 children with anyone other than my ex, pretty much. This while my ex didn’t work since BEFORE the pregnancy started. In fact, the pregnancy was her plan to keep me around.

      So I’d argue that a lot of people could afford to have kids by 30 as long as they do it with the right partner. A lot of my friends make more money than I ever did, while my own income was a “holy shit” moment for some of my other friends and family when I came clean about everything going on in my life, particularly what my ex did to my finances. Of course my country is more affordable too, I don’t live in the US. Kindergarten is less than 100 EUR a month, kid now eats mostly the same stuff I do (no more special baby foods to spend on, besides formula which is pretty affordable, I use locally made stuff) and grows fairly slowly so I don’t have to buy new clothes every single month. Diapers are still an expense and will be for a few more months at least, but that’s also 50-60 EUR a month, not more.

  • Sundray@lemmus.orgEnglish
    16·
    3 days ago

    I mean, this is why social media is full of videos of dudes sitting in their trucks complaining about how everyone’s crazy now.