It’s effecting my work and mu boss seems ready to fire me and i will lose my apartment. I am angry all the time now and I worry I am alienating friends and family. I am fatigued all day long and want nothing more then just sleep and all I can do is lay in bed and hope I have a good night and sleep for maybe three hours and I don’t know what to do. I can’t even afford therapy.
Sleep comes when our bodies and minds are not just tired, but feel safe to relax.
Exhaust the body to feel relaxed? Exercise. Yeah, no one wants to hear it. I don’t either. But it’s huge. Do a fuck ton of cardio. Go on a 5+ mile hike with over 1000 ft of elevation gain (minimum). Your body will be tired. Your body will feel accomplished. You will plop onto anything comfy effortlessly.
Exhaust the mind to feel relaxed? This is important… A busy mind doesn’t always exhaust itself. Mental health 101. You don’t think you’re way out of anxiety or depression. The answer here is meditation, but I cannot meditate to save my life. Guess what I do? I go on a 5+ mile hike with over 1000 ft elevation gain (minimum). I go a little slower than I think I should. Big rule for this if In really stressing is NO STOPPING til the summit. And when the breathing starts getting heavy, that’s when I meditate. Suddenly the only thing I can think about is breathing. Suddenly being economical with my breathing is helping me achieve my goal. I sure as shit can’t effectively ruminate about whatever is bothering me.
So for the mind… Meditate. Or exercise. Just don’t let stress fool you into thinking it’s a mental workout. It’s just a drain.
Those are my two biggest tips for a good sleep. Do a 5+ mile hike with 1000ft+ elevation gain and Do a 5+ mile hike with 1000ft+ elevation gain. Eat a good dinner after. Maybe a night cap, but be sure to hydrate.
Edit: the other thing that really works for me for mental workouts besides exercise is learning something new. Like really dig in and challenge your brain for a few hours. Learn a song you like on an instrument you barely know how to play. Go through a machine learning tutorial. Build a house in a CAD program. Animate something. Build something. Cook something new. Etc etc.