This is a women-only discussion community. If you do not identify as a women or fall under the umbrella cited in the community sidebar, then please refrain from posting or replying.

We’re fighting a losing battle. This is a space where we are very clearly not wanted, and we cannot discuss women’s issues without hostility.

Keep it limited to makeup and fashion, I guess, unless you want to be brigaded!

I’m over it. Let the boys have their playground. Lemmy is not a space that is welcoming to women, and, because of that, unless sweeping changes are made, I just don’t see myself ever recommending it to any women as a good place to make a community.

I’m not going to contribute to its growth or content any longer. “PROGRESSIVE” space. Garbage. Absolute fucking hypocrisy. I’m so sick of having to explain myself and be made to feel like I need to justify my existence here.

Good luck, sisters. I’m desperate for community, but this feels more like a battleground than it does a home.

We appreciate the sideline supporters who respect the community rules & expectations and are respectful enough to not interject. You are very much loved and respected, brothers. 🫶

EDIT: This community & its moderators have been nothing but kind & respectful to men who post here, and are constantly shit on & downvoted because of it.

I have resorted to being hostile! And I see very little difference in how this is being received compared to them.

My blood pressure too high rn.

EDIT 2: Mods… I’m sorry for leaving you to find this dumpster fire of a thread! I gotta go to bed and I’m sick of trying to explain things to people who don’t actually care or want to understand.

Women: attempt to foster & curate their own community to talk about women-centric issues and experiences without being drowned out by majority voices

The rest of Lemmy:

  • prettybunnys@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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    2 months ago

    I am a man and I am posting this because there’s nothing preventing me: <— and this is the problem entirely

    The entire issue is you’re attempting to create a private space in a public area, and without a closed door and a private gate keeper those don’t exist anywhere unfortunately.

    I’m not saying your goal is wrong I’m just saying possibly the problem is the wrong tool for the job.

    Sorry that public spaces are like this.

    • Alice@hilariouschaos.comEnglish
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      2 months ago

      If anything lemmy needs more communities like this. Communities that AREN’T political and strictly focused around a specfic topic.

    • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyzOPEnglish
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      2 months ago

      Yeah, we wrongly expected men to respect this space.

      Guess that’s too much to fucking ask.

      You have the rest of this fucking website to do whatever you fucking want. And we have ONE single tiny space we respectfully requested you do not post to.

      And yet. Here you are!

      • prettybunnys@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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        2 months ago

        Set up an instance for women and enforce account restrictions.

        You’re using a public space without any restrictions and expecting it to be respected.

        I mean this with all due respect but you’re using the wrong tool for the job and then blaming others for it.

        It’s like standing in the mall and shouting that the floor tile you’re on is yours and yours alone and then getting mad that someone says “ok”

        Here I am proving both our points together, we’re both right! I just have a solution for you!

        • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyzOPEnglish
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          2 months ago

          It’s like standing in the mall and shouting that the floor tile you’re on is yours and yours alone and then getting mad that someone says “ok”

          No, it’s like we requested a room in the community center for our meeting, and some fucking dumb-ass barges in, sits down, and inserts themself into our conversation!

          Or! You could stay out of women-only spaces when requested! No?

          I don’t have the time or tools to host my own instance, so maybe just stay out of our fucking room until we do.

          • prettybunnys@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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            2 months ago

            K. Moderate your space then and ban this man for the audacity of overhearing your public conversation in a public place and saying “hey I can hear you”

            Use the tools you do have.

            This isn’t a room, there is no door, you’re in the hallway.

            • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyzOPEnglish
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              2 months ago

              Yes, wise one, we know you can hear us! And our request for you was “you can listen, but please don’t interrupt our ladies-only meeting!”

              Christ, for someone who can’t fucking read, you sure do post a lot.

              • prettybunnys@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
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                2 months ago

                And we’ve once again all three pointed out the problem, You’re arguing with a women now, and have been since my husband handed me the phone to point out the inanity of the situation.

                The problem is that the conversation is happening in public and it doesn’t matter what it’s about people suck and want to be heard.

                  • SharkEatingBreakfast@sopuli.xyzOPEnglish
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                    2 months ago

                    “Hey ladies! SharkInTheDark’s boyfriend here! Since I’m a big strong man, I figured that maybe he’d listen better if he was talked to by a fellow man! Buddy, you’re acting like an actual fucking moron right now! These bitches get positively hysterical when we invade their spaces! Let’s talk about it over a beer, bro!” 🤜🤛