I’ve been 10months on HRT so maybe it’s still too early to tell but I genuinely believe I won’t pass unless I get FFS, my face was quite masculine before HRT and I think it’s not possible to change some stuff without surgical intervention. I have a prominent brow ridge, my jaw is square and my chin is cleft. No matter how hard I try with makeup, voice, eyebrows and hair, I still get sir’d once people see my face. Sorrowfully without much hesitation. It makes me feel terribly illegitimate to call myself a woman when I look like this.

My dysphoria has lowered a lot since starting though and I actually feel alive for once in my life. But maybe it would be better identifying as a femboy until I can get FFS…

  • JusticeForPorygon@lemmy.world
    20·
    16 days ago

    Personally, I think you should identify as whatever the hell you want and not worry about how your appearance might affect people’s perception.

    I don’t think there should be a threshold for how feminine a trans person needs to be before they can change how they personally identify.

    I might have also completely misinterpreted what you’re saying because I’m really fucking tired. Anyway I hope I could be helpful in some way.

    • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
      9·
      16 days ago

      I agree but if I go to the women’s bathroom I’d still immediately get kicked out :(

      That won’t change for years until I get my maimed face fixed…

      • Another Catgirl@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        5·
        16 days ago

        In my region, there’s a huge variety of women using the women’s restroom including me with just a pink hoodie and leggings and no makeup. I’ve also seen women with facial hair,non-binary and GNC people, and ftm men using the women’s bathroom. If you use the women’s bathrooms near me and show any amount of femininity you’ll be fine.