Pretty is a double-edged sword. Yeah I think there can be some advantages, but also sometimes you don’t want the advantages and then you’re stuck either accepting them or being rude when someone thinks they’re just trying to be nice to you. So you kinda go along to get along.
I experience life differently if I’m wearing makeup and contacts vs no makeup with glasses. When I wear makeup I can be really beautiful, and without, I can look kind of mousy, especially due to the glasses. And the difference in treatment is real, but I actually prefer the invisibility I get without makeup. With makeup, men are more chatty and ‘helpful’. They hold the door, they usher me in front of them if I’m getting in line at the store. Especially older men (60s+), so this might be generational to some extent. Men my age and younger men aren’t usually like this and I really appreciate that.
I know these are small examples but larger ones exist too - for example, I’ve read more conventionally attractive people have a better chance of getting hired and/or better pay. Which sucks if you’re not pretty, and also sucks if you are pretty and you wonder if (or people act like) you got your job because of your looks. And then part of me wonders if to some degree it’s attributable to the higher confidence that pretty people tend to project.
Sorry if these thoughts are jumbled, I just woke up. But this is an interesting subject!
Pretty is a double-edged sword. Yeah I think there can be some advantages, but also sometimes you don’t want the advantages and then you’re stuck either accepting them or being rude when someone thinks they’re just trying to be nice to you. So you kinda go along to get along.
I experience life differently if I’m wearing makeup and contacts vs no makeup with glasses. When I wear makeup I can be really beautiful, and without, I can look kind of mousy, especially due to the glasses. And the difference in treatment is real, but I actually prefer the invisibility I get without makeup. With makeup, men are more chatty and ‘helpful’. They hold the door, they usher me in front of them if I’m getting in line at the store. Especially older men (60s+), so this might be generational to some extent. Men my age and younger men aren’t usually like this and I really appreciate that.
I know these are small examples but larger ones exist too - for example, I’ve read more conventionally attractive people have a better chance of getting hired and/or better pay. Which sucks if you’re not pretty, and also sucks if you are pretty and you wonder if (or people act like) you got your job because of your looks. And then part of me wonders if to some degree it’s attributable to the higher confidence that pretty people tend to project.
Sorry if these thoughts are jumbled, I just woke up. But this is an interesting subject!