• LustyArgonian@lemmy.world
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    10 days ago

    Codependency isn’t an excuse to assault someone.

    I don’t hurt my sisters. “Like a sister” - you attacked her. Not only could you be charged with a crime, she also could completely reasonably use legal lethal force against you in that scenario in many states. FYI most killers are known to their victims beforehand, so that you know her actually makes you more likely to kill her compared to a stranger.

    You just don’t want to let go of abusing others so you are making excuses.

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      10 days ago

      Hardly consider it codependency. Unless all close bonds are considered that. Which is why me doing it was not an issue but if someone else did yeah it would have been.

      Like if my mom cut a lock of my hair would I be annoyed and kick her in the shin? sure. I would demand a explaination but not go nuclear. Some person I barely know? Hell to pay.

      what’s important is the view the people involved have here. I doubt if I apologized today it would be accepted because no one involved view it as a problem.

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        9 days ago

        if I was wasn’t the person she called to come over when she was scared at night and wasn’t her flatmate for a year before this event. At the time she was a sister to me and my SO and watching her not listen to basic safety was frustrating.

        This is you describing codependency. This is not typical of all relationships, just codependent ones.

        You wanted her to be scared of you. Not all men, but you. And if she’s scared of you, you think she will be under your control. Because you think it’s okay for men to seize bodily autonomy from women. I’m going to guess you have stupid ideas about child support, abortion, and marriage too.

        What you’re saying is in “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. Nothing new, nothing interesting, just justifications for why you give yourself permission to harm others.

        Being familiar to her makes you MORE likely to abuse her, which is exactly what you did. Again, legally, you could be arrested for assault, battery, and possibly she could’ve legally killed you (if you had done that to me, you would be dead immediately FYI). That’s how clear the law is that what you did was wrong - you could have died over this and no one would’ve been on your side.

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          7 days ago

          I didn’t want her to be scared of me. I wanted to prove how easy it was done. She was laughing after when it was all said and done. Frankly if she did deck me I would have been proud but thats not the point. Doing something illegal and unsafe plus the added danger of ppl actively around. Thats suicidal. She didnt see it that way until then. Like how does someone not wear a seatbelt??? If they dont see the danger? show them. If someone is doing something unsafe you?stop them. Thats friendship. To me its was the same as i wrestle pills from my brother in the middle of the night. Don’t let ppl you care about make decision that may not come back from.

          Highly irrelevant. Unless you think crazy ideas are being pro-choice wanting women to be able to be divorced, arm themselves, and being career oriented. My opinion is Suppressing half the population is madness and a waste. Just like how much it would be a waste if something happens thanks to her naivety.

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            7 days ago

            Deck you? She could have shot you or had you arrested. You illegally assaulted her. Period.

            I 100% understand you never learned to keep your hands to yourself due to shitty parents and your own belief system.

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              4 days ago

              She could have but she didnt. Same reason most people wouldn’t. When something happens like that you freeze up for just a second. Id 100% know I would because it has happened to me plenty of times. Know what gives enough time to realize what is happening and take correct action? Lock the door and wear a seatbelt. Good parents should have taught her that.

              Crime requires victim. No one was injured or intended to be injured. No one was verbally attacked. My brother pull me out couch? Probably kick to balls and laughs. Robber intent on harm to get what they want? Very much assault. Difference here was intent. If that means nothing to you then we will disagree on most things crime related. Because why is always more important than what to me. Especially when judging others for their actions.

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                  2 days ago

                  One of us has repeated attacked the other.

                  • immediately began accusations before gathering more information.
                  • Accused One of using fear of an individual to instill a sense of self preservation. In which I could write a paper on how silly that is.
                  • confused codependency with basic empathy and a being sympathetic ear.
                  • repeatability Mentioned being capable of murdering someone they consider a sibling without a second thought.
                  • Bring in topics irrelevant to the conversation to defame the others character
                  • assaulted the characters of others in their life.

                  Id ask that you think about the kind of people use these tactics. Id recommend someone like that have self reflection before being the thing they push away potential allies instead of bringing people together.

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                    2 days ago

                    Lol oh you poor wittle baby can’t handle being “attacked” aka correctly identified as a physical abuser? Gee you poor little tiny guy, now imagine if she’d taken you to court and you got sentenced. They’d have read all that out and more, and maybe even got put on a list and your right to vote taken away, if not shot immediately out of self defense. Imagine being “attacked” so thoroughly in a cpurt of law as you deserve. Because again, you are guilty of assault and possibly battery by your own words. You confessed already, proudly, like a wifebeater in front of his trailer bragging to the cop through his two teeth. You are an abuser and a piece of shit. I don’t want to bring you together or to any part of society - go live in Slab City with the other abusers. Go away. May you never touch another woman in your life again. May no woman hold an affectionate thought towards you. May you never have a woman’s love directed at you. My curse to you. Shouldn’t have hurt her, and you should’ve admitted you did wrong and apologized.

                    Feel bad? Good, you should. Bring shame back when you do something fucked up. Embarrassment, guilt. And if nothing else, a sense of fear that people like me will see you for who you are - an abuser - and we won’t give you peace. I hope you hate yourself, you should, you’re garbage.