I think this boils down to trust and emotional security. You build this rapport over time with one another. Rather than learning not to make a sound, which is another topic itself …
7 years with my wife and we are still both learning this.
The part we both find super dumb is that both of us KNOW the other is the same way, but in the moment neither of us are thinking about that fact and we both feel bad about acting upset/angry in response.
I think this boils down to trust and emotional security. You build this rapport over time with one another. Rather than learning not to make a sound, which is another topic itself …
7 years with my wife and we are still both learning this.
The part we both find super dumb is that both of us KNOW the other is the same way, but in the moment neither of us are thinking about that fact and we both feel bad about acting upset/angry in response.
It’s the world’s shittiest feedback loop.
But we are always getting better at it, I feel.