I mean, is this normal?
One complained about me to our superior and I was moved to a position elsewhere within the same company. She now sees me and greets me like nothing happened, which strikes me as very odd. 9 months after I was moved she was moved to a different department as well.
The other is a gossip, badmouthed me constantly, lazied around and now, each time she sees me, she greets me effusively, as if we were best friends. WTF?
I simply don’t understand why people (women?) do this.
Has this happened to you before?
Other than ignoring and gray rock them I don’t know what else to do.
But what in the actual heck are they thinking?
Idk man, you don’t provide very many details about what happened.
One complained about me to our superior and I was moved to a position elsewhere within the same company.
Did you do anything to warrant a complaint?
The other is a gossip, badmouthed me constantly, lazied around
What does this mean? It sounds to me like you are badmouthing her too.
Why do I have the feeling we’re not getting the whole story here?
Well, first, are they aware that you know what they did / said?
This is normal . They think that saying hello to people you know is being polite and that polite people still don’t treat the people they hate badly. It’s not just women. I had a prolonged issue with a male coworker involving that.
Yes, this has happened to me. The woman in question was at the time under investigation by HR for bullying her direct reports, so she was probably trying to smooth things over with her previous victims. Didn’t help her.
Because gossipy backstabber be fake
I’ve never complained to get someone moved, but there are plenty of people that I didn’t/don’t like that I still have to work with. I will maintain a positive working relationship with those people by being nice.
I don’t don’t fit the mould of these ladies you’re talking about, but it could be a similar motive assuming they are aware that your are aware that they are the reason you moved. If they don’t know that, sometimes distance can help make bad relationships amicable. Again anecdotally, I’ve worked with people who’s work I don’t approve of, but they are fine people. Not working directly with them allows me to enjoy time with them.
Without the context omitted for why they complained about you, we can’t really offer fair judgement. Giving you the benefit of the doubt, you can see my above for possible explanations.
Yes, it’s normal, or at least it’s not super unusual. People can be the meanest to your face and then pretend that nothing happened. Is it because they are ashamed of themselves? Because they want to pretend that nothing happened and hope you won’t bring it up? Because they want to maintain happearances in front of others? Are they trying to gaslight you? I don’t know, but it did happen to me and to other people I know.
