Grasshopper, most people, not all, but most, are good. When you get into contention with them like this, it almost always comes down to a lack of understanding. Sometimes it’s on them. Sometimes it’s on you. The trick is to hunkerdown and figure out who’s running the bigger deficit before you respond accordingly.

Men are not a mystery to women. They get a firehouse of male point of view starting from the cradle. Unless they grew up in very unique convent, it is inescapable. Its in the curriculum. The histories. The books. Media. Everywhere the default documented experience has been a man’s. They know and understand the pressures that shaped you.

We teach men fuck all about women. If anything we push them further into ignorance. Societies love their hierarchies, and ignorance is the best way to mantain social divides.

It’s not your fault that you will have to try harder to reach the same level of understanding. It wasn’t fair to you to deny you this education when you were young and it was easy to pick up. But to understand you have to know you are playing catch up and you will have to try. The effort may be challenging and uncomfortable, and feel nothing like that sweet spike of gratification when you take a swing. Do not mistake what feels good with what is true. Maybe start with some Carl Sagan.

If you want to talk, we’ll talk. Because yes, the banket perception of ‘women pure, men depraved’ is a thing. But it is ignorance is disregard the thousand years of context, to assume this is only hurts men. Don’t jump down someone’s throat because you don’t understand. Listen, read, grow.

Tldr: fuck elon musk, get a library card.