Quite possibly a luddite.

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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • I am not talking about people enjoying things that I don’t personally enjoy, I was talking about an instinct that men (allegedly) have to share quote disgusting stuff with each other.

    This post doesn’t seem to me to be about sharing a weird common interest with your friends. There’s nothing (inherently) toxic nor gendered about having weird hobbies.

    The post is about seeing something disgusting and immediately sharing it with all your friends who will also be disgusted, and portrays this as if it’s just a completely normal thing for men to do. And while I can kind of understand where the assumption that men behave like that comes from, I have never experienced anything like that with any of my friends, and I’m pretty sure I never will. So it seems like a bit of a misrepresentation.


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    There’s so many weird societal constructs about how men are supposed to behave. I have never encountered any of that shit with my friends, but that’s probably partly due to a selection process where I have no interest befriending people who display toxic masculinity traits.

    If you genuinely think men obsess over disgusting shit and talk about who they want to fuck all the time, maybe take a moment to reconsider a) who you’re hanging out with or b) the cultural impulses you allow to shape your perception of the world.

    I think the main reason men act this way is that they’re trying to fit into an image of masculinity that has been imposed on them, in part through tweets such as this one.








  • The spelling thing bothers me a lot. I don’t want to catch bad habits of writing shitty just because it’s whatever seems trendy at the moment.

    People used to give me shit for not using smileys, so I started adding :) everywhere in text messages. Then people told me I seem passive aggressive because I use :) instead of emojis.

    Joke’s on them. I could never be arsed to use emojis outside of very specific contexts, and now gen Zs are making fun of them for looking like boomers with their dumb emoji use. Apparently I still come across as passive aggressive though.


  • Often people are looking for some sort of validation, even when it’s not obvious.

    If they say “I can’t join you in the bar today, I have too much work to catch up on”, “K.” is not a good answer. Several aspects needs to be addressed, ideally:

    1. That’s too bad
    2. Next time
    3. Commentary on the state of work: Keep your head above water/your boss is such a jerk/we’ll make up for it after your deadline on Thursday/whatever, depending on the situation and your relationship.

    Basically, it’s a way to show that you care about what they’re telling you. It can be a bit exhausting at times.