To use an Alphabet product is to support Alphabet regardless of how you access it. If you want to de-google, then stop using their products 100%.

It boils down to consent. You should always always get consent before taking an action that includes somebody else. Just because you can see me is not consent to record me. If you don’t have consent, don’t do it. It’s as simple as that.

Run your own instance. It’s the only way you’ll be able to set your own policies. Otherwise you’re subject to policies of the instance you’re on and those policies may change at any time.

That’s lip service to privacy with spyware in reality.