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Cake day: July 19th, 2023

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  • Agreed, and this goes for any religion that does it. But what really grinds my gears about (other) leftists defending this kind of religious expression is, this isn’t something women choose. They’re forced to and groomed from young age to cover themselves. Meanwhile, their brothers, fathers, sons all walk around free to wear shorts, t-shirts, etc. If men had to cover themselves the same way, then sure, at least there would be some level of equality. This is just plain old misogyny that has no place in modern societies.

    However, with that said, there’s a real possibility banning head coverings would ultimately hurt girls, instead of helping them. Good education and financial independence and stability in adulthood would give these girls a better and safer way to escape. Like with any other societal problem, it’s complex and can’t be simply “magiced” away.


  • We do read what you write, you’re just wrong. Or maybe lacking compassion. Or just don’t understand that everyone is different and that education systems generally suck.

    When I was a kid, I had two classmates who had accommodations due to their learning disabilities. Nobody thought, hey, they should “be moved to the institutions that will force them to study”, because they didn’t not want to study. They just needed help. Did the rest of us feel threatened or jealous of them? No. We either didn’t care or were happy they got at least a bit of help in this cookie-cutter system.

    On the flip side, I was surrounded by straight A students in HS, but 99% of them forgot the material once they were graded on it and ultimately retained the same level of knowledge (sometimes less!) than me who was a B/B- student. And then people like that go on to be shitty doctors, because all they do is learn by heart with little to no understanding of the material, and the educational system rewards that.

    The more I read your comment, the more insane it sounds.





  • Same why I’m still on Reddit. I’m definitely not getting people who struggle with the same illness that causes fatigue and brain fog to spend more energy they don’t have on switching to another platform that doesn’t even come up when you type it into a search engine to seek support from other people affected by the illness. It’s easy to say “don’t use this, don’t use that”, if all they use these platforms for is for memes and messenger.

    I had to create an account and use Facebook in my support job days, because that’s where everyone was posting shift exchange requests. An entire department won’t just switch to Signal for this just because the new person refuses to use anything not FOSS.

    Same witht cars. I prefer not to use my car, and I’m happy that in my day-to-day life I can just walk, cycle or use public transit. But if I’m visiting my parents in the countryside of another country, I’m sure not spending—checks notes—9 hours on train with multiple connections instead of just under 2 by driving the car.

    Do what you can to avoid using all these, but don’t go to the extremes where you’re not getting the info you need or getting to places you need to be. Should the the message.






  • I was groomed by a guy in his 40s when I was 16 to 18. He was also suspected to have sexually abused younger kids. I’ve been in a relationship with my current partner who’s my age for over a decade now. The abuser knew very well how to take advantage of vulnerable girls. And yes. That trauma will stay with me. I still have nightmares. For the first year with my partner I would frequently wake up from these nightmares and be so relieved to be next to my partner to comfort me. I found out very recently that the asshole is still out and about, but got cancer, so there’s some karma there.

    I’m sure that if I had better friends and wasn’t so lonely and had a better situation at home I wouldn’t have fallen for this. These abuser really know how to pick their victims.








  • People expecting me to magically fix what Microsoft keeps breaking in every imaginable way, update after update, with bugs failing to be fixed for literal years, and then getting pissy at best or straight up an asshole Karen who wants to talk to the manager—or sometimes CEO!—while insulting me at worst, if I’m unable to fix or workaround this horrible closed source, poorly documented hot garbage with no real human support from Microsoft.

    Meanwhile Linux. When shit breaks, I might spend days troubleshooting, but fuck if I don’t manage to do it after finding some 5 years old thread on a forum that leads to a line of code in another random thread. Also logs. Love that shit.