Aargh, I meant to write “cooking”. With my new keyboard app, I needed to get used to double checking more often.

That should be illegal

It wouldn’t surprise me if both are just happy to gave enjoyed each other’s show

Awesome! I’m so glad you had a fun time 💛

This post reminds me of one by @QuinnyCoded@sh.itjust.works which actually got me wanting to try HRT before even realizing I was trans.

also omfg the progesterone is working why is everyone so pretty WHAT IS HAPPENING […] like I just FEEL things, like deep inside me.? is this normal? am i crazy? is this what cis girls feel all the time??? (source)

Thank you for sharing your experience! I’m so excited to start it soon, too. 😊

I wonder if this paying more attention to colors / pretty things is ADHD related…

Your trains are surprisingly reflective, kinda cool. Great shots! 😎

I actually like that is not too monotone, but has a bit of… Texture? Noise?

“Thank you for [cooking], mom! 💕” One day…

Lovely! 🥰

I wish I had a good solution to that problem… Honestly, I think going up to people like “excuse me, sorry to bother you but I needed some guidance… Do you know your way around transitioning?” with an awkward smile might just work. And a “no” is easier to suggest than if you’d randomly ask for friendship. I almost once pulled this off, but I had people nearby who I didn’t want to know yet. 😩

More like TotallyNotJesse

That’s great advice! I first bought all the things, but mostly ended up using only mascara and CC cream (to mask redness after shaving or a minimal stubble). For now, at least. It is enough to make me smile at my reflection. CC cream feels like a cheat, honestly.

That’s completely valid to feel somewhat anxious about! Luckily, this is no exam, you don’t need to score, you just need to somehow get the point across. You can do this 💪

Awesome, it’s great that you’re 1. discovering yourself, 2. planning the next steps and also 3. seek community! You have our support ❤️

I personally feel a bit uncomfortable framing transgenderness as a medical condition that needs to be diagnosed, though I get it on a technical level.

I’m not sure what to make of your “English please. 😭”. Maybe people can link you stuff that’s in another language, if you prefer that.

You’ll hopefully have a lot of fun exploring girly things! Don’t feel pressured to have to enjoy everything, or to be good at everything right from the start, or to educate yourself for hours before giving things a try.

Regular nail polish shouldn’t be to hard to try, but make sure to also get nail polish cleaner/remover. Personally, I noticed my intuition betrayed me, regarding which colors I like. [Note: I honestly don’t have much experience with nail polish, so take my advice with caution]

UV polish is slightly more involved. It gets harder & thus more durable than regular. You can try that out without getting a UV lamp if you simply do it on a sunny day and go outside / to an open window. You might need a base and top coast, so look that up if you wanna try UV.

It’s a big plus if you can try on stuff without having to commit by buying it, like if you have a friend that let’s you try out their nail polish or clothes. Thrift shops / clothing swap events are good to, so you don’t spend much money before figuring out what you like.

I’d love to hear/see updates, whenever you’re comfortable sharing! 🧡

Honestly, it’s quite a struggle to come to terms with it yourself. I can’t even imagine a professional telling me that I’m not, unless they are a terf and don’t want to be taken serious.

i went to my family physician completely unprepared, stuttered that I dissociate with my agab and he just looked at me confused and printed the required papers to forward me to a therapist. It’s not their job to determine if you are trans, it’s their job to forward you somewhere more specialized to make the call (decision).

You can do it, girl! 💪

Never thought of you in an[y] other dog mode 💖

That’s one way to phrase “entertaining”

Yay, colorful!

tbh, militarisation, war mongering and propaganda are an issue in many western bloc countries, too (incl. Germany). You might also want to consider avoiding any country that’s actively preparing for a war against Russia. I hope you can find some place quiet.

Do you mean physically leaving the country, or finding a place to stay / get a visa? Regarding the first: I heard you can get anywhere when first flying to India.

In most regards, anything “typical for East Germany” doesn’t apply too much to Berlin. Also any larger German city tends to be left-leaning, even in East Germany. I don’t think you will easily end up in a far right (AfD) hotspot, unless you intend on going to rural areas.

Larger cities are however dirtier and more expensive. But it you want to go smaller, look for something with at last a few job opportunities and preferably an existing, “organized” LGBTQ+ community.

In East Germany you’ll at least find russian speaking people more easily (though likely >50yo and Ukrainians), if that’s a concern.

Studying in English is possible. I think German language classes are offered for free? Germany has welfare, but the government loves to (illegally) limit support below what’s legally considered a minimum income for a life in dignity. So expect having to struggle to make ends meet.

I don’t know about how easy it is for immigrants to get medical support, sadly. Hopefully someone else can answer that.

It helps me to consider that many people have a lot of stuff going on in their lives, things that worry them, as well as things that are taxing on them (work, physical and mental health issues, care work, finances, etc). We all have to manage the resources we have, including attention. Going vegan requires quite some thought, some getting use to, some effort to break out of the habit. It requires mental effort to reconsider common prejudice and misconceptions, and it often leads to facing one’s own cognitive dissonance (meaning: if we ate animals or whole life and we now consider that to be wrong, we have to face having done wrong our whole previous life; addressing this dissonance can be mentally painful).

Personally I’d rather nudge people, than to appear as if forcing them. I like some low barrier offers, like bringing muffins or inviting them for dinner. It depends on how thoughtful and open minded the person is, many will just push back when feeling pressured. I remember that I didn’t go vegan overnight either.

Are you organized and do outreach work? Are you sad about “ignorant” people in general or family/friends in particular?