Title says it all. What really irks you that you don’t get to complain about much without catching some glances? Seriously, get as passionate as you’d like. I assume you’re an expert.
The forgetfulness of neurotypicals regarding negative memories.
You see, you/they tend to forget all that negative stuff. We don’t. We keep it almost forever.
So something political happens, or with a influential person or company, or whatever and we look back and say… It’s a trap, did you forget xxx?
Yes, yes you did. And it’s very disheartening. Grifters can gift forever, blind the masses etc. We’re beginners forever as humanity.
Every choice we make has an impact on the world around us. Sometimes that impact is very small, but it is still real. For example, we live on a planet with a limited amount of clean drinking water. This can make me wonder if using a service like ChatGPT uses resources that contribute, in even a tiny way, to water shortages in the future.
I also think about the things I buy. If I wear a T-shirt made in Malaysia, does that support unsafe working conditions or child labour? If someone is harmed in a factory that makes these clothes, do my purchases make me partly responsible?
These thoughts lead to a difficult question: if I am responsible for even a small part of many harms, such as being 0.001 percent responsible for the deaths of 1000 people through many small everyday actions, does that mean I have caused a death simply by living my life?
I wonder if it’s my autism that makes me consider these things because to me it seems no one else does.
It might be.
I am surrounded by kind, decent people, but same. They don’t think about, or engage in, these sorts of thoughts, and I try. They just shrug and say their little impact, isn’t enough of an impact to try. Meanwhile, I am over here having a daily existential crisis about all the stupid packaging on my second hand jeans.
I always attributed such considerations to my ADHD because, well, with a neverending train of thoughts you’re inevitably spending some time pondering this, but seeing how many auties share it, it was probanly only amplifying it I guess.
Still, it makes me sad how little folks care.
Not diagnosed, unsure about autism status so assuming neurotypicality until proven otherwise, answering anyway because I hate buying stuff online:
When searching for a product, whether you’re looking for a specific one or just browsing a general category, you will find that all (actually, I meant “most of”, using “all” for emphasis) the categories are made up, useless or inconsistent: there are duplicate categories, obviously missing values that should be there - honestly, there’s no way a person created those labels. I get it, big online stores have lots of products, and lots of different types, it must be hard organizing all of those into neat digital boxes for a better user experience.
Oh wait! They’re huge corporations, they can afford to do that, probably! Just hire someone to categorize the products, or tell the people submitting those products to label them properly or suffer consequences. Provide better labels, I should be able to know exactly, or at least with near certainty, what a product is just from the tags (in my opinion).
Women’s and Children’s pants sizes. It’s an 11 WHAT? THE FUCK DOES THIS NUMBER MEAN GODDAMMIT?
All pants sizes should be Waist circumference, Hip circumference, and (in the case of pants versus shorts) Length to ankle. Objective and not subjective measurements. Something I can put a measuring tape to and confirm. It’s not perfect, as everybody is different, but at least I’m not trying to dress my children and remember “A size 12 in this brand is a size 10 in this brand” bullshit.
I nearly foamed at the mouth ranting about how this shit drives me insane.
Oh god yes. For over 20 years i have bought pants that say: 32/32. Not really sure what it means, but i know that it’s length and waist or vice versa. They fit, every time. T-shirt is an M. Pullover a L. Why isn’t that not standardized? Why do women have a completely different system? Why is it different for children? Why are shoe sizes different depending on the brand?
The size of an inch or a centimeter is arbitrary. In fact, all measurements other than natural units are arbitrary. Units need not scale linearly either. E.g. dB or the Richter Scale. A women’s number 11 or a size 10 shoe or a meter are all equally valid units of measure. What is fucked is the delineation of “men’s” and “women’s” sizes and the fact that women’s clothes have fewer and shallower pockets.
How is a physical measurement that is universally agreed upon “arbitrary”?
What we call a centimeter can be however large we choose. Say it were twice as large as it is now and we all agreed that size is a centimeter. What if we chose the inch and the centimeter to be the same size? Agreement doesn’t negate the fact that we could have chosen it to be any arbitrary size.
The only true “universals” are universal constants like the speed of light or Planck’s Constant. They set boundaries and scales irrespective of the units we use to describe them.
Smokers that smoke around people in public spaces like in a busy pedestrian zone or at a train station
Advertsing.
Blessed Aiyuna, the stuff is inescapable. Our civilization has somehow decided that, if you have money, you have a goddess-given right to get ALL UP EVERY WHERE IN THE LIFE OF EVERY PERSON AND HEY YOU ARE NOT PAYING ENOUGH ATTENTION LET ME GET EVEN LOUDER SO YOU CAN HEAR ME EVEN IF YOU WALK OUT OF THE ROOM FOR YOUR OWN SANITY SINCE EVERYBODY ELSE IS JUST GOING TO BE LIKE, “WHAT ARE YOU COMPLAINING ABOUT?”
It is not great.
The fact that the only way for 2 people to move around in public side by side and hold a conversation is usually when you’re sitting in a car.
Sidewalks and bike paths are too narrow for it or full of parked cars in cities, and non-existant in rural areas.Holy shit this one is so real. Meanwhile they’re adding another 2 lanes to Main Street for the cars…
I live in a rural area that’s a popular tourist destination for people from big cities.
In the summer it drives me absolutely bonkers when the tourists come with their bikes/rent bikes…and ride in groups up to 5-wide, around blind corners etc. We don’t have shoulders, and if we’re do they’re rarely maintained.
Dogs that bark at people that are just walking on the sidewalk. It pisses me off to no end.
Cannot people walk freely on public sidewalks without being bothered by a fucking dog barking as if I am committing a robbery? Owners should train their dogs not to bark like that.
It pisses me off. Seriously. Just thinking about that, my blood pressure is already rising. Imagine if every house had one of those dogs. It would be fucking hell to go anywhere by foot.
I think you can learn to not be angry by understanding dogs better. They are protecting their territory and they are the one animal that loves its humans more then anything.
They are actually amazing. So I think if you learn the positive things about them, you may like them more.
The dogs piss me off at that moment, sure, but it’s the owners I hate…
Consumerism and throwing away easily repairable things. Perceiving some brands as superior for whatever fucking reason even if you explain why that’s not the case. Cheap stuff that breaks apart by merely looking at it from the wrong angle. “Cost optimization”.
Not really autism-specific things but holy hell does it get me going.
Yeah and literally everything else in this thread.
Edit: The quality of search results. Jeeesus Christ has it become ridiculously hard to find anything human-written beneath all these AI trash sites. Fuck those ad-riddled, information-deprived, time-wasting pieces of shit.
Oh yes, this one pisses me off also: consumerism. I am anti consumption and when I see the amount of consumption, unneeded, useless, consumption in the world i get… Mad? Sad? Disappointed? We are in a climate emergency, the main reason being capitalism, which might just be a synonym for “consumption”. The marketing that is done for increasing levels of consumption is also pathetic, infuriating and criminal.
My autistic partner does the second one. No MATTER how many arguments bring why apple just is objectively a bad choice from the price tag to their products. They still only want apple phones. Instead of breaking out they are going “well i cant get any other phone than apple because of my apple music and apple in-ears.”
I guess it depends how long you keep yer stuff. Apple has been a great choice for me even though I’ve gone with their more expensive phones—I kept my first iPhone for 4.5 years, my second one for almost six years, and I’m on my third to which I didn’t NEED to upgrade but I wanted better low-light kitty pictures and 120hz. Overall, the cost for the longevity evens out to be pretty good. Different story if someone upgrades their phone every year or two.
The price is still too high even if you factor in using it for a long time. Other options like FairPhone or Samsung or even Nokia are way more priceworthy
Yeah, I’ve noticed that even Ecosia search is going down the shitter
Motors. They are everywhere. Big motors, small motors, motors in every vehicle, motors in many home appliances, fans in many of your electronics, on the ceiling, in the walls, standing on the floors, inside, outside, you can hear them in the sky, or running down the tracks. Noisy, noisy motors and somehow it’s all background noise to everyone else but me.
Is it summer time? Want to open a window and listen to the birds sing? Nah, fuck you it’s the neighbour’s air conditioning unit.
Am I crazy or is the rest of world crazy? Who knows. Here’s a motor. Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
I get glances from people when I mention the electricity in my walls are too loud. Every damn thing hums too loudly in the cities and is extremely noticeable when the power goes out.
These people pretend they can’t hear all the motors but then complain that the city is loud!
No it isn’t; cars are loud! Move yours out of my city! I’m trying to live in peace, here!
brrrrrrbrrrrrrrrrrbrrrrrrrpoppoprrrpopr every morning every evening every night
Cities Aren’t Loud: Cars Are Loud - Not Just Bikes
Honestly. You need only try to listen to music or a podcast with open headphones near to a road to see how quickly it gets drowned out by even just having a car pass by.
Its annoying having to crank my music up to a relatively uncomfortable level just so I can hear it without having ANC.
Though ironically enough I do find the low, relatively quiet humming of a spinning fan comforting.
loud noises in general, stuff like applauses annoy me to no end, crowds being overly cheerful for no reason, noisy vehicles
Anything and everything related to noises and sounds being so loud/unnecessary. It feels like the world keeps getting louder and louder for no reason. Speakerphones blasting music and full volume calls on speaker, thudding base/stereo systems, just the volume people seem to talk without any regard for the people around them is ridiculous. That’s not to mention any of my misophonia related triggers on top of it all. Some days I really wish I could turn my hearing off for a bit
I wish my neighborhood had specific hours for lawn work / leaf blowers / power washers. I’m sick of my noise canceling headphones.
People eating with their mouths open in an otherwise silent room.
Street lights and cars. We have the technology to adjust street light brightness and color, if we must have them could we at least dim them in the evening and use warmer tones. Helps us, helps the nature.
Ban most of the private car driving and compensate by building tram/train tracks. The noise cars make is just obnoxious.
Also people not caring about the climate change and the environmental impact our culture has. Being comfortable is more important than making the right choices. People are willing to look away from almost anything as long as they don’t feel uncomfortable in their private lives.
As someone with light sensitive eyes, I sympathise with you on street lights and cars.
The pure white LEDs being put into every streetlight and car on the road nowadays are so unnatural and harsh to look at, and (for me at least) way more physically irritating to look at than the same brightness of warm lighting.
I hate them with a passion, and sincerely hope that governmental bodies will look to ban/limit their outdoor use in favour of warmer lighting.
… Slam on the break, not the gas? If you cant see, you accelerate? There are easier ways to get into accidents if thats what you want.
What I do is block the sun / light with my hand so I can see a bit of the road and then drive carefully.
People watching shit on their smartphone with the volume full fucking blast. What happened to Airpods and the like? Use them ffs! not a single person wants to hear whatever bullshit is coming out of your phone.
Honorable mention: cars with speakers in the grille. Not one single solitary person wants to hear your stupid playlist either, and your speakers fucking suck anyway. Yes, I’m talking to you, bozo in the donked out Chrysler 300 that drives down my street.
People have speakers in the grille of their car? To play music on the outside of their car? What the fuck kind of main character psycho bullshit is this?
It’s terminal main character syndrome 😔
I don’t understand the former. Somebody is sitting in a waiting room and believes it’s appropriate to start watching loud YouTube to pass the time.
yes thank you! 100% agree. I should not be the one having to shove my noise cancelling earphones in just so someone else can blast some 10 second instagram short that repeats over and over and over ad nauseam while they, I assume, scroll through mindless bot comments.
Honestly. It feels like way more people nowadays are way less conscientious of their noise pollution.
Like no I don’t want to hear you doom-scrolling through Instagram, no I don’t want to hear your playlist, and I’d really rather not have to listen to both ends of your phone conversation either.
If you need your ears open, then get a set of open earphones or bone-conducting headphones. Unless you go for the top brands, neither are all that expensive - and most will offer better sound quality than your phone on full blast in the first place!
Hey friend, how dare you besmirch my grille speakers!
I use them all the time at the drive-in theater to broadcast the radio channel with the movie audio so everyone not in their car can hear the movie.
People seem to be thankful… but should I be worried to the point I ruminate late into the night for the next few weeks, and then once every few months for the rest of my life, about how I may have angered someone while trying to help others at the drive-in? /jk
But seriously, I can see the point for certain car culture type meet ups, I didn’t want them in my car, only discovered them after I bought it. Was at the drive-in, it was a nice night, was sitting outside of the car but couldn’t hear the movie, thought if those speakers and they have come in very handy ever since in this, and only this, setting.
I didn’t know grille speakers had utility like that 😅
But yeah, there’s a guy that often drives down our street blasting whatever shitty music he likes for all the neighborhood to hear. The audio quality is terrible, too. Way too much treble and sounds like it’s reverberating out of a tin can.
Inefficient loading of the dishwasher.
You put the same things to the same place! So you can grab them as one when unloading, saving time.
You spread everything out! The more bunched it is, the harder it is for the water jets to hit and clean everything properly.
You put each thing into the most appropriate place! Big spoons go into the bigger bucket, small spoons in the smaller one, big plates into the row with the wider space between plates, smaller plates into the more narrow rows.
It’s incredible how most people load their dishwashers, they mostly just put stuff in wherever is closest.
Also, how in the fuck are they able to “fill” the entire dishwasher with just 5 small objects, but still manage to arrange them such that the dishwasher can’t get them clean? It’s like they have some kind of inverse TARDIS super power that only works on dishwashers.
