of course, the rich
Those people don’t have the 8 hours in the office
So, I knew people who do all those things. Work long days, go to the gym, have their hobbies… What they also did is:
- have aspouse who does all their chores
- Never do anything with said spouse
- Wonder why their second marriage is failing
Although a lot of them also claimed to only need 5 hours of sleep.
Possible… Hmz. Better ways exist to find. ✨
Also, as a society, we spend far too much time working to live and it’s bullshit.
It’s so messed up how normalised that got.
“So wait we work for half our waking day?”
“Yes, but you also get two whole days off per week”
“Woah that sounds almost too good to be true.”
Yes, if part of your job involves physical activity and there’s never overtime and it’s not high stress and you have a short commute.
So, not my life right now, but that has been the case in the past.
168 hours in a week
Minus 56 for sleep is 112
Minus 40 hour work week is 72
Minus half hour commute 5 days a week is 67
67
Minus 65 hours doomscrolling in bed is 2
How tf am I supposed to have hobbies and health with only 2 hours of free time every week?
So, no laundry, eating, bathing, shitting, anything like that? What’s your secret?
(In fairness shitting can be combined with either the 40hrs/work if you’re smart, or with the 56hr/sleep if you’re not, but then the no bathing or laundry becomes a bigger issue…)
He works at a water park so both are combined with the 40hrs/work
Come on ! People act like laudry hasn’t evolved since the 19th century. It takes 1h a week max. Bathing : 2h a week Eating/cooking at home : 15h a week Cleaning the house : 2h a week You are still left with 47h a week left for gym, side projects and socializing. If you don’t have kids, life is really not that hard !
I do multitask by doomscrolling on the toilet, at work, or even on the toilet at work sometimes. It does buy a few more hours for doomscrolling in bed
spend less on candles
“no”
I used to work from home and lived close enough to gym, I could go at lunch. That was the best.
Then, I had to walk the dogs. No time for the gym anymore but still lots of exercise.
Now I live in an area far from a gym and it’s dangerous to walk the dogs. We play in the yard a lot, but I’m not getting exercise I need.
It’s totally doable if you have the right job, and live in the right place.
If you have kids or other obligations, it’s just not. There isn’t enough time in a day.
For most of the last 5 years I’ve been cycling 2 or 3 hours a day and spending about 45 minutes a day at the gym and I still have plenty of time for fun and socializing and whatnot while also getting 8 hours a day of sleep. This is possible for two reasons: 1) I semi-retired from my job as a programmer and I’m now a school bus driver, which takes about 4.5 hours a day (it helps that I live a half-mile from the bus lot, otherwise the job involves twice as much commuting as a normal job); and 2) I don’t watch movies or television. For my money, #2 is the biggie – spending hours a day watching movies and TV shows is such a massive time sink. I’m not judging people who do it since I just stopped enjoying it years ago, not because I’m consciously avoiding something I like in order to free up time.
Unfortunately, two months ago my parents’ health took a nosedive and my father died and now I’m a nearly full-time caregiver for my mother. I haven’t ridden my bike or been to the gym during this entire stretch. So if it makes anyone feel better, I’m no longer in the category of insanely fit older dude myself. But it is possible, at least.
I’m gonna guess that working only half a full time job while (I’m gonna assume) having some money from a programming job saved up played more of a part than you may think, but I’m sure not watching movies also helps.
Meanwhile people working 8+ hours in a physically demanding job just to be able to afford rent and maybe enough food for the week who then still have to take care of general life stuff are a lot less likely to have the money, time, or energy to do much else.
Out of curiosity, did you
cycling 2 or 3 hours a day and spending about 45 minutes a day at the gym and I still have plenty of time for fun and socializing and whatnot while also getting 8 hours a day of sleep
While you had a job as listed in the pic (8hrs/day)? I’m betting time was a major factor in why you only started 5y ago.
My “real” job had a schedule from about 4 AM to 11 AM because I was managing a team of coders in India and this allowed me to overlap with them somewhat. I would then ride 25-50 miles in the afternoon and hit the gym in the evening before going to bed around 10 PM. I had less time for sleep and fucking around but otherwise it was similar. Towards the end of that job my company was bought by a west coast tech giant and then I had nothing at all to do for six months, so exercising was obviously even easier.
Well damn hell yeah, that seems like it all worked out!
Working double shifts for that sweet sweet high deductible health plan or an hour per day at planet fitness, so hard to decide
You’re not suppose to go to the gym every single day in most cases. The “average” resistance trainer might spend 3 hours total per week in the gym. (I.E. 3 days a week. 1 hour each session) Maybe more maybe less. Maybe a lot less. I only go once a week when I’m cutting. But that’s just me. Granted his isn’t including de-load weeks or full rest days. Which you absolutely need unless you’re Achilles himself, and look what that got him.
If you’re going to the gym “every day” for basic cardio. I would highly suggest investing in a home treadmill or similar instead. There are also a ton of stationary cardio exercises you can also look into or research online. Otherwise, most people can usually find some smaller, no bells and whistles, used treadmills/elipticals for fairly cheap if you look around and/or get lucky. Hell, I see people giving away cheap stationary bikes for free all the time. Depends on what you’re looking for and what your goals are.
People that do these things generally have a ton of energy, are incredibly disciplined, do things quickly, and to a pretty large amount, box-checkers and/or future-borrowers.
If you’re a 45-60 minute showerer, you’re going to have trade-offs
If you have threesomes during the week, you’re going to have trade-offs
If you are the type of person who needs to actually feel peaceful the majority of the time, trade-offs
The ADHD person needs more hours in the day. For everyone else, there’s half-assing it.
Priorities are everything. There isn’t enough time to get everything in life. A lot of us have fallen con to the box-checker’s quantity and compare ourselves to that. It may take some self work, but figuring out what actually makes you happy and what makes that sustainable is a pretty big, but worthwhile challenge. I’m in my 30s and still working on it, for what it’s worth. Different people figure this stuff out at different rates, and my hypothesis is that your availability of resources and birth privileges are big factors in the time it takes to figure that out.
In other words, stop worrying about what makes other people happy, and focus on what makes you happy. There may be overlap, but there also may not be. We’re all different and that’s okay.
Preach! :)
If only there were more than one day a week…. Le sigh.
I still think the 40-hour work week is inherently tied to the idea of the american nuclear family. The answer is that there simply isn’t the time to do any of these things unless one person is doing the 40-hours a week office job and the other is doing the 40-hours a week “taking care of shit with the house/kids” job.
Yes, but as you age you don’t need as much socializing and you have established good friendships so you can jump right in.
But I do track everything for fun (like a diary). Last Sunday to Saturday i reached:At 7hrs 4min of excercise last week, 45.3 hrs sleep, 1260 grams of protein, 7 pieces of nicotine gum, 28oz of whiskey (4oz/day), etc…
Highlights: Had a pr at the gym, squatted 410lbs. Baddthings: Had gym fail at ju jitsu, spit my mouth guard onto my bros face. Sorry C! Also argued w my sister over text
and you have established good friendships so you can jump right in.
Think again! An opioid epidemic has hit your town, all your friends OD’d or moved to attempt getting clean, or the one who moved for school. The one that’s left is moving 5hr away for a girl he met 6mo ago. You’re also a male in an age bracket known for having a hard time making meaningful connections, superficial ones come and go like the tides.
What do I win, and can I return it for store credit?
A victim card and being ignored.
Nice try, it’s lonliness.
Have fun being a prick!
as you age you don’t need as much socializing and you have established good friendships
That’s quite an assumption to make. Why would you need less socializing as you age? Relocating to another city might mean having to start over with your social group.
Well to bring up developmental theory…Young men in early adulthood often need far more social contact because that stage of life is about exploration, building identity, and expanding networks.
By midlife, most men have shifted into a stage of consolidation where priorities narrow, relationships deepen, and the need for frequent socializing drops.
Sure I could put in citations, but its Sunday and I’m relaxing…So here’s a quote from Aristotle instead:
The aim of the wise is not to secure more friends, but to find enough good ones.
Nice squat brother!
I love you, let’s run away together.
Most of the people I know who do this consistently / longer-term are young adults and/or on drugs. Not like street drugs, but some combo of legally prescribed stimulant/anti-depressant/performance enhancing/hormone/weight-loss stuff. Modern medicine has the answers (for some).
A common scenario I’m seeing is that folks in their 30s, 40s, and 50s are being diagnosed with things like ADHD for the first time, and suddenly once they’re on the proper stimulants, they can full throttle, always be doing something. I’m also seeing this a lot with folks who go on GLP-1 drugs. They lose a bunch of weight in a short amount of time and suddenly feel a lot better, mentally and physically. The other thing I see going on is people getting on hormone replacement or starting performance enhancing drugs a bit later in life, seems to be a real motivating factor for them since they’re suddenly feeling 20 years younger.
So, maybe the answer is be young and if you can’t be young, do drugs?
guess that’s where many go wrong… be young and do drugs
The adults are gonna be alright
