Not apposing kindness, but as someone who is watching my mother take care of my grandmother right now I just don’t see the point. The things she says 1 min are forgotten the next so her saying shes getting married soon will also be forgotten within a few hours if not the day. Its cool to see some compasion, but in no way was this for mom, it was for her to rationalize it and cope with whats going on. This will be one of the last few good memories she will have and thats ok.
The thing is, some of the delusions are deeper rooted, and are likely to recur more, in one form or another. Even if mom doesn’t “remember” she’s getting married, and the event doesn’t link with that underlying cause, she’ll have a happy day, and, if she asks for a bridal shower again, they can show her pictures and mementos of the day.
At least one thought to the contrary (though I don’t think you’re wrong to look at it that way) our bodies cary the record of our emotional wellbeing, even if our memory doesn’t
This was probably quite good for their mother, both psychologically and physiologically, even if she will have no memory of it.
I’m sending love, I can’t imagine how hard it is to navigate watching someone fade away like that 🫂
Not apposing kindness, but as someone who is watching my mother take care of my grandmother right now I just don’t see the point. The things she says 1 min are forgotten the next so her saying shes getting married soon will also be forgotten within a few hours if not the day. Its cool to see some compasion, but in no way was this for mom, it was for her to rationalize it and cope with whats going on. This will be one of the last few good memories she will have and thats ok.
The thing is, some of the delusions are deeper rooted, and are likely to recur more, in one form or another. Even if mom doesn’t “remember” she’s getting married, and the event doesn’t link with that underlying cause, she’ll have a happy day, and, if she asks for a bridal shower again, they can show her pictures and mementos of the day.
Or keep the gifts around and do it again. Every day can be a celebration.
At least one thought to the contrary (though I don’t think you’re wrong to look at it that way) our bodies cary the record of our emotional wellbeing, even if our memory doesn’t
This was probably quite good for their mother, both psychologically and physiologically, even if she will have no memory of it.
I’m sending love, I can’t imagine how hard it is to navigate watching someone fade away like that 🫂