• PearOfJudes@lemmy.ml
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      5 months ago

      I mean you did comment this on the internet but good job you’re nonchalant and chill about it etc

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      5 months ago

      Stupid question: are we talking about the penis of a transman? Is it actually generally bigger than the average cisman’s? I just assumed the surgery could not achieve that, but I don’t actually know anything about the surgery.

      • ᓚᘏᗢ@piefed.social
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        Phalloplasty followed by medical tattooing can result in some spectacularly realistic (and decently sized) penii.

        The sugery is brutal though, don’t go looking this up if you’re not ready to see extreme gore.

        In summary though, flesh is taken from the forearm or the back of the thigh and grafted over (usually) a flexible rod (the other option is a flaccid inflatable, with the pump concealed in a bollock) on the mons pubis, to create the penis. Optionally plumbing can slso be linked up, so one can stand to piss, and balls can be inserted. Along with all that, surgically closing the vulva/vaginal canal is also an option too.

        I spent way too much time looking into this at one point. Things may have changed a bit since then when it come to phallo, but I doubt much.

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          i have so many questions, like, some of my favorite memories are being traumatized walking in on my mother watching the public access surgery show. i want to talk shop with one of the surgeons basically some of the tools they can use are really cool. not osteo though, they just use hammers.

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          5 months ago

          I know there are lots of different scenarios, but isn’t the meme referring to someone who has undergone phalloplasty, which I assume is most commonly someone assigned female at birth?

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            5 months ago

            taking you at your word that you’re being genuine, this meme is referring to the common situation where a cis man is fetishizing a trans woman while assuming she still has her default hardware (i.e. hasn’t had bottom surgery) and asking inappropriate questions to her (“how big is it”)

            you may direct further questions to me via DM; asking these questions in the context of this meme seems to be being received poorly, for understandable reasons, even if your intentions are genuinely to understand

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        You’re literally doing the thing in the meme right now. I can’t believe you’re getting replies.

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          I hope I haven’t offended anyone. I’m coming from a place of wanting to learn. I support trans rights.

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            I’m just really sick of hearing cis people ask about trans people’s dicks. I’d almost rather if you asked chat gpt and got a hallucination. It does not matter if you are able to visualize what a trans persons dick looks like. There is just no way you’d ever need that information.