Basically, I can’t figure out the appeal or Tiktok and other types of repetitive media consumption where you are doing the same thing over and over and over. I remember trying it out and just being so bored and frustrated with the entire thing.
I feel the same way about TV shows, and restaurants and all that too. Going to the same place every Friday night and getting the same order and watching the same TV show on repeat just sounds like hell to me.
Or hanging out and talking about the same topics over and over and over, with never a new or novel thing to say, drinking the same beer/wine/cocktail over and over.
What is the appeal of living this way?
The way you wrote this made me remember a person who was in my life for a bit. She had like 1000% more energy than I did, she was a complete extroverted duracell bunny while I’m more slow moving introvert. She kept pushing me to try new things and dragging me to places where I didn’t want to go. She had no sense of boundaries. She’d show up and just start doing stuff and telling me how I was being boring and scared of living life. Just because I wanted to do my thing in my own pace.
She was exhausting. I’d have to be alone for days after spending half a day with that hurricane of a life force that she was. Eventually I had to cut her out of my life. I stopped opening the door when the door bell rang. I still don’t open the door if the bell rings lmao.
She didn’t mean anything bad, she was just completely clueless about how to read others. I could have dealt with her if she had like 20% less energy. But she didn’t and I couldn’t. I hope shes doing well.
Anyway, people just are different. Please don’t try to force your way of doing things on others. Its not because they are scared or have trouble dealing with life, its because they are doing things differently.
It goes both ways. I am frustrated and exhausted and depressed by folks who never want to try anything new or change, who never want to get out of their comfort zone. It feels like dragging around dead weight and sucks the joy out of life.
Why do you feel its your job to drag them out of their comfort zones? Why do you feel the need to change people and force them to do what they dont want to do?
It doesn’t go both ways, you can just walk away and stop bothering them. If you keep pestering them, they are just gonna get fed up with you and break contact. If they are people you want to keep as your friends, find some other friends who are on your energy and interest levels and use your extra energy with them and use your chilling and relaxing days with the people who are comfortable sitting at the comfort of their homes.
It’s not. I never said any of that.
I just don’t interact with them once they show me that is who they are. It’s just annoying that so many people are like that esp as I get older. It’s killing my social life because I don’t want to sit around on my ass and do the same stuff over and over, I want to go places and do things.
I dont’ meet anyone who is of my energy level of interest level. So I am forced to lower mine to interact with people, or pretend that I like drinking Miller beer and bitching about change.