• db0@lemmy.dbzer0.comOP
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    Continue with that analogy. What would happen if that woman had no other option. Should she choose the nice guy, the chad or object to the choice being fostered upon her and choose nobody? And if she’s paired anyway with that person, should she then act as if it was her choice, or take actions to disengage from that person and destroy the system that caused these turn of events?

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      You can tactically vote for Biden to avoid Trump and still take actions to dismantle the system.

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        So the woman in our scenario should decide to choose the “Nice Guy” tactically?

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            I don’t think it does. A choice fostered upon me at the threat of violence is not a choice at all. I refuse to participate and therefore legitimize such a farce.

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              You’re free to do nothing, but smart people choose to minimize harm when there are only bad choices in front of them.

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                Who said I’m “doing nothing”? Voting isn’t doing anything. Only actions outside the ballot matter.

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                  Voting isn’t doing anything? Did you not see what happened when Trump got to pick three Supreme Court justices? Roe is gone dude. This stuff matters.

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                    Hrc won the popular vote. How did voting harm reduction then do anyone any good?

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                    It really doesn’t. This is the momentum of your country either way. Or did you forget that your democrats had chances to put Supreme Court justices and they just…didn’t?

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              Non-participation is not the same as doing nothing. If she chooses to date neither, neither is in her life. If you do nothing, you still get trump or Biden. The analogy doesn’t hold.

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              Yeah nah mate. You have the right to not vote. But if you choose to exercise this right you don’t get to whinge about the person elected by those who did vote.

              Society is not composed of you and you alone. It is composed of many. You took yourself outta this decision but it’s still being made freely by everyone else and no, it doesn’t impinge on you to accept the democratic consensus of the many

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                But if you choose to exercise this right you don’t get to whinge about the person elected by those who did vote.

                roflmao, sorry, that is just absurd.

                until the UN General Assembly says that the right to share an opinion only applies to people who vote, you are totally wrong.

                i’ll exercise my universal right to complain and have self-determination in government by not voting for genocidal maniacs, thank you very much.

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                I understand that I’m living in an oppressive system enforced by violence and that my life is shaped at the threat of state violence. you don’t need to reiterate that to me. It’s why I’m not legitimizing it by participating in this farce of “democracy” and instead dedicate my life to changing it.

                Whichever puppet is on top doesn’t change all that whatsoever. Nor will your platitudes about be “accepting the democratic consensus of the many” when I don’t have the alternative due to said violence.

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                  Well said. As someone who is going to vote for Biden to keep Trump out of office, I harbor no ill will towards leftists who choose to reject the whole charade. One way or another, we need to bring down the system, and I don’t see any evidence that voting for centrist democrats is likely to incrementally move us towards a better system.

                  On the contrary, it seems more likely to me that Trump would potentially accelerate the evolution of society by fucking everything up so badly that we would have no alternative but to make radical changes.

                  However, given that I am unable to be certain of the future outcome of each timeline, I believe that voting for Biden minimizes the risk of a worst case scenario. But again, I don’t approve of shaming leftists for abstaining, because the reality is that both parties are colluding to maintain the status quo, and ultimately if Trump wins the election its not the voters who will be to blame, but the Democratic party for failing to produce a credible challenger.

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                    For the little it will be worth to you, i am a radical moderate and we can find common ground in fixing the broke in radical ways.

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              You can refuse to vote but you’re still going to end up with one of those two as your president. Are you OK with not having a say about which one it ends up being just to make a point to nobody in particular?

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                Are you OK with not having a say about which one it ends up being just to make a point to nobody in particular?

                Abstention makes a point to everyone in general through the tracking of voter participation levels.

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              You shouldn’t not vote. Vote for someone else instead. Vote for the person you want to represent you.

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                I might register to vote just to write in “thanks for counting the votes” for president - or I guess I could vote for Cornel West, but what’s the point? The abstention would be more representative of my views, at this time, I believe.

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                  Consider this:
                  Republicans win big this election, including the presidency. Democrats were just very nearly beaten out. They look at who else got votes, and investigate what their platform was. They realize they could co-opt some of those ideas to try and get some of those voters next time. But, if you haven’t voted, they have no clue what platform you support or what policies they can adopt to win you over next time.

                  Swap the parties if it suits you, I’m not trying to make a statement for one versus the other, I’m trying to convince you to vote at all.

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                    I’m not trying to make a statement for one versus the other, I’m trying to convince you to vote at all.

                    appreciated

                    But, if you haven’t voted, they have no clue what platform you support or what policies they can adopt to win you over next time.

                    I get what you are saying, but I’m not yet convinced. You did make a dent, though. I’ll let it percolate a while.

                    They look at who else got votes, and investigate what their platform was. They realize they could co-opt some of those ideas to try and get some of those voters next time.

                    I spent 20 years voting like that and the democrats have utterly failed to listen to anything other than the social justice issues.

                    The republicans are fundamentally right about some things (this is a democratic REPUBLIC, afterall) but so fundamentally wrong about other things, that they similarly failed to listen to.

                    So now, I’m mostly content being in the “no one is listening to me” category.

                    edit: fwiw, i do occasionally write to representatives about topics that i am knowledgeable about

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                As pointless as Voting third party is in the US, at least you remain included in the considerations of the Ruling Class. Don’t Vote and your interests are ignored as irrelevant.

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              A choice fostered upon me at the threat of violence is not a choice at all

              Indeed. Vote your conscience or don’t vote at all.

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              . A choice fostered upon me at the threat of violence is not a choice at all. I refuse to participate and therefore legitimize such a farce.

              Life is full of choice forced upon you, thats unavoidable short of choosing to stop existing. I am forced to choose between where to work. If I say “fuck it, I’m not going to legitimize this capitalist system, I’m making no such choice”, I’ve still made a choice, one that will end up with me being homeless. The threat of violence came true anyways.

              It’s in my best interest to choose, and in the meantime work to dismantle the capitalist system that is threatening me with homelessness. But when it comes to voting, it’s worse because the lives of others are on the line.

              You don’t have the luxury to stand by and do nothing when people’s lives are on the line.

              How many trans people will die as a result of suicide or outright killings as a result of Trump coming to power? Their blood will be on your hands, how much are you ok having on your hands? You have the opportunity to vote for a candidate that isn’t going to ban GAC, who isn’t going to condone or pardon violence against trans people, who isn’t going to shift the culture towards more hatred.

              And you’re choosing to stand idly by and let the harm happen.

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                Abstention has historically been a way to declare your distaste for all options and, outside of America, is regarded as honorable. For some reason Americans don’t get that a massive absence at the polls isn’t just about “having better things to do”.

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                  It historically has been and shall always remain an ineffectual and pointless way to assure you and your interests are not a part of the calculation in any way. The fewer that Vote the easier it is to “manage” the remainder. No one, literally no one including the nonvoters themselves cares a single whit for the opinions of nonvoters. Refusal to participate makes your position meaningless. It is the “holding your breath” of the lazy and immature adult. Nothing more and nothing less.

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                    Wow. You have a severe issue with people who are presented some options and say: “No, thanks.”

                    I have a civic duty that if I am not represented by a candidate, that I do not muster support behind that candidate. If a political party needs my support, it is their responsibility and not mine to attract the voters they claim to need.

                    You can watch the constant sliding of Democrats toward the right and the vacillating popularity of fringe-left parties to know that the Democratic Party doesn’t give a damn about winning left-fringe voters. After Nader secured over 3 million votes in 2000, do you think the Democratic party learned a single lesson? Or did they just shit the bed all over again in 2004? Did Obama run on any of the 2000 Green Party’s positions?

                    I’ll save you the effort: The Democratic Party opted to adopt 0 of the Green Party positions from the 2000 election.

                    So tell me all about how voting Third-Party somehow sends a message.

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              Yes. While there’s nothing wrong with sex work, if you’re forced into it to survive when you’d rather not (marriage or cohabitation because it’s either that or sex someone to get a low or higher paying job) it’s still forced prostitution, and once Mr. Nice Guy has you, it’s mask off, 100. Even if you willingly choose Mr. Nice Guy, and the mask comes off, it’s a bait and switch, rather than duress and still scummy.

              To put it another way, if your choices are die from dehydration or drink poisoned water, dehydration may be less agonizing than drinking from a brackish source.

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          If the woman in the scenario is going to be stuck with the nice guy or Donald Trump, then yes she should tactically choose the guy who isn’t an unapologetic rapist. She can influence the nice guy’s behavior, and avoid the horror of Trump. She does not have to condone or accept the nice guy’s bullshit behavior, and there will be a future.

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          Your utterly not related nor relatable to reality scenario is pointless.
          Should she choose to watch Star Wars or Star Trek after having stabbed both your imaginary scum bag and his friend chad. Has the same relevance to the Election.

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        Or you could maybe take actions to fix the system. Because whatever you lot come up with after dismantling is going be worse for everybody else.

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          You can still do both. The only viable path to election reform comes from downballot state elections anyway.

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            You can still do both

            Not sure that I follow what you mean. You can’t fix a system that is being dismantled, so I’m guessing that you mean something else.

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              Well if you properly dismantle the system, we won’t be voting this November anyway. Better get on that quick, bud.

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                I disagree, if we are legitimately talking about dismantling the USA, like what happened to USSR, then it will take decades or more to do peacefully. Not gonna happen overnight, babe.

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                  Bro I thought we were talking about the election system, not the whole damn country. You wanna destroy the country, elect trump. I guess that’s why you encourage people not to vote for biden.

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                    I never said anything about destroying the country. If Texas wants to secede, let them, I say. If democrats and republicans can’t get along, then keep em separated, I say.

                    Also, I only encourage people to vote their conscience. I don’t care who they vote for.

                    If you lot are trying to talk about election reform again, then go back and listen to what Lawrence Lessig was talking about before the democrats blocked him from the debates to protect hillary.

                    edit: and don’t call me bro. use the proper “brother” or don’t bother, i’m not gender-conforming

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      And if she’s paired anyway with that person

      This line right here is where it should be obvious how far this “analogy” has to be twisted to even start to become analogous.

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      object to the choice being fostered upon her and choose nobody?

      do you genuinely think not voting will make neither candidate win