Ha, sounds like he just needs to read some actual feminism! 😅

Strangely his way of relating to his male sexuality reminds me a lot of Christian sexual shame. The cultural context and influence might make it harder to locate the source of his shame, since he might rationalize and then articulate sexual shame in terms of feminism, while for all we know it has deeper roots. Feeling like you have to repress your sexuality is not uncommon among men, even outside progressives.

Either way - that’s such an interesting account, and I loved how thoughtful and well-written your comment is, thank you for sharing with me 💕