• Norgur@fedia.io
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    7 months ago

    So your old person trait is really that “wife stay at home with the kids” should be the norm?

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      7 months ago

      It should be an option.

      Dad works, and mum stays at home to focus on the home and kids. ✔️

      Mum works and dad stays at home to focus on the home and kids. ✔️

      Both work part time to both spend quality time with the kids. ✔️✔️✔️

      All should be completely viable for an average income couple.

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        7 months ago

        This. As a working woman I can’t really upvote the “I wanna support wife and kids” stuff. Thanks, but I want to work.

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          7 months ago

          I understand it from the women’s point of view and I didn’t mean to be mysoganistic in any form, but it is in the DNA of men to want to be a good provider and I think, if you’re being honest, that many women look for that as an attractive trait in a male partner.

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            7 months ago

            I understand that you weren’t trying to be mysoginistic, but I am disagreeing with your premise that the provider role for men & women wanting it is some kind of natural state. These roles have been enforced, and can be unlearnt. It’s also not binary. It may well be that in a perfect world without any societal pressure, more men than women want to provide. But how many? Having a higher probability doesn’t imply that it’s deterministic for all people.

            The only biological aspect I agree with is that being pregnant changes women, because this is backed by studies.

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              7 months ago

              I respect your opinion and thank you for tackling my point of view head on, rather than just picking the bones out of semantics the way that some others in this thread have.

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      7 months ago

      The fact that one working man could support his whole family just a few decades ago didn’t mean women shouldn’t, couldn’t or didn’t work, just that they didn’t have to.

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        7 months ago

        Women worked fulltime, just unpaid. This is always forgotten. Household with multiple kids is not free time.