You’re not wrong, but the adoption system is fucked. You can have as many children as you want, and you MIGHT lose them if people notice their care is poor. You have to jump through so many hoops to adopt.
i was a foster kid once… my ex wife was a foster kid her whole childhood… i’ve lived on the streets and met several foster kid runaways
we definitely need more sane, well adjusted, foster parents… foster homes (formerly orphanages) are pretty terrible.
many foster parents just foster kids for the extra money….
it seems like there’s zero hoops to being a foster parent… tons of hoops to adopt a baby.
a lot of times beings foster parent is temporary.
with me, my father was crazy and my mother was put in jail for “child stealing” me and my brother to escape my crazy father… so the court put us in foster care temporarily.
i don’t know if they abused us, but they did shave our heads for no good reason.
Unfortunately, there’s still hoops to jump through to be a foster parent, many of which are subjective assessments. It’s really easy for shitty people to pretend to be whatever the assessment person is looking for when they’re motivated by money and lack morals. It’s a lot harder when you make an effort to be genuine and the assessment person doesn’t like some way in which you don’t match the mold they’re wanting. I know a couple who tried to jump through the hoops to adopt a 16yo queer kid. Amazing parents. The person who interviewed them was very conservative Christian and didn’t like that they planned to respect the kid’s identity. Needless to say, they didn’t get approved as foster parents.
i wonder if that was the 16 year old queer kid who ran away from the foster home who asked if he could sleep next to us for safety….
we were just drunk, and apparently not scary….
i wonder about him sometimes, he told me his story….
what really sucks is those kids are super afraid of the police, because they’ll be instantly arrested and brought back to the foster home in virginia or wherever.
and then people like me want to help, but also don’t want to get charged for corrupting some runaway kid (we let him sleep next to us, he was gone before we woke up… and no i didn’t give him alcohol or anything)
i’ve met probably 5 different minor foster runaways in my days being homeless… well probably a lot more at the rainbow gathering (it’s a hippie gathering not a gay one, they started before the rainbow flag thing was a thing… but there are plenty of gay people there)
its far more for adoption, the legit way. thats why people that are likely to abuse or choose a “puppy” baby goes to asia for easy adoptions. of course single men are less likely to be able to adopt because of the pedophelia potential/baggage associated with.
You’re not wrong, but the adoption system is fucked. You can have as many children as you want, and you MIGHT lose them if people notice their care is poor. You have to jump through so many hoops to adopt.
you can become a foster parent a lot easier… problem is everyone wants to adopt babies
and alot of t hem seem to be exploited too. yea its the puppy honeymoon phase.
i was a foster kid once… my ex wife was a foster kid her whole childhood… i’ve lived on the streets and met several foster kid runaways
we definitely need more sane, well adjusted, foster parents… foster homes (formerly orphanages) are pretty terrible.
many foster parents just foster kids for the extra money….
it seems like there’s zero hoops to being a foster parent… tons of hoops to adopt a baby.
a lot of times beings foster parent is temporary.
with me, my father was crazy and my mother was put in jail for “child stealing” me and my brother to escape my crazy father… so the court put us in foster care temporarily.
i don’t know if they abused us, but they did shave our heads for no good reason.
Unfortunately, there’s still hoops to jump through to be a foster parent, many of which are subjective assessments. It’s really easy for shitty people to pretend to be whatever the assessment person is looking for when they’re motivated by money and lack morals. It’s a lot harder when you make an effort to be genuine and the assessment person doesn’t like some way in which you don’t match the mold they’re wanting. I know a couple who tried to jump through the hoops to adopt a 16yo queer kid. Amazing parents. The person who interviewed them was very conservative Christian and didn’t like that they planned to respect the kid’s identity. Needless to say, they didn’t get approved as foster parents.
i wonder if that was the 16 year old queer kid who ran away from the foster home who asked if he could sleep next to us for safety….
we were just drunk, and apparently not scary….
i wonder about him sometimes, he told me his story….
what really sucks is those kids are super afraid of the police, because they’ll be instantly arrested and brought back to the foster home in virginia or wherever.
and then people like me want to help, but also don’t want to get charged for corrupting some runaway kid (we let him sleep next to us, he was gone before we woke up… and no i didn’t give him alcohol or anything)
i’ve met probably 5 different minor foster runaways in my days being homeless… well probably a lot more at the rainbow gathering (it’s a hippie gathering not a gay one, they started before the rainbow flag thing was a thing… but there are plenty of gay people there)
potential neglect is possible more common than actual abuse.
its far more for adoption, the legit way. thats why people that are likely to abuse or choose a “puppy” baby goes to asia for easy adoptions. of course single men are less likely to be able to adopt because of the pedophelia potential/baggage associated with.
Imagine having the ability to choose your childs age and you pick the objectively worst and least interesting age. People 🤦