I don’t think about it as normalizing because I view these kinds of words as weapons, you don’t go spraying them in public like a psycho, they need to be saved for someone especially deserving and ideally without an audience.
It’s unfortunate that the horrible people of this world are still people, and have all the same insecurities as any innocent person, but that won’t stop me from using the tools at my disposal.
I thought we were talking about their use in private conversations in which the people being mocked are not the other person in those private conversations. So you mean like, if you’re alone with a person who has intentionally harmed people without concern, those are the situations in which you’d use such terms to mock the person to whom you’re speaking? I can’t imagine that would matter to them. Idk, am I misunderstanding you?
Bullies and their ilk have the same concerns as anyone else, even if they don’t follow the social contract the same way as others. They care about their appearance, their relationships, even if it’s in a warped narcissistic way they all have a place to hit below the belt.
Call them fat, question their sexuality, make them feel weak or small or alone, each of these is little more than a different way of hurting another person, there is no conviction of belief in these statements.
I’m saying the content of what is used is not my concern in these situations, only that pain is dealt in a way that has a favorable outcome. Violence with words has a place in society for all of the knowable past and foreseeable future, but in my opinion should only be used for utilitarian retribution in a way that promotes peace and harmony (such as getting that person to leave the altercation).
Now with everyone on the internet everything is a public place, it’s new to society in general and people sometimes don’t realise they’re being watched and listened to not just by their personal relations, but any number of strangers ready to jump in the line of fire and get their feelings hurt. With all that said I’m done with the topic, internet strangers don’t get to police the morality of my private speech and if I ever say anything untoward to someone I actually know, I’ll make amends to them only.
I don’t think about it as normalizing because I view these kinds of words as weapons, you don’t go spraying them in public like a psycho, they need to be saved for someone especially deserving and ideally without an audience.
It’s unfortunate that the horrible people of this world are still people, and have all the same insecurities as any innocent person, but that won’t stop me from using the tools at my disposal.
I thought we were talking about their use in private conversations in which the people being mocked are not the other person in those private conversations. So you mean like, if you’re alone with a person who has intentionally harmed people without concern, those are the situations in which you’d use such terms to mock the person to whom you’re speaking? I can’t imagine that would matter to them. Idk, am I misunderstanding you?
Bullies and their ilk have the same concerns as anyone else, even if they don’t follow the social contract the same way as others. They care about their appearance, their relationships, even if it’s in a warped narcissistic way they all have a place to hit below the belt. Call them fat, question their sexuality, make them feel weak or small or alone, each of these is little more than a different way of hurting another person, there is no conviction of belief in these statements.
I’m saying the content of what is used is not my concern in these situations, only that pain is dealt in a way that has a favorable outcome. Violence with words has a place in society for all of the knowable past and foreseeable future, but in my opinion should only be used for utilitarian retribution in a way that promotes peace and harmony (such as getting that person to leave the altercation).
Now with everyone on the internet everything is a public place, it’s new to society in general and people sometimes don’t realise they’re being watched and listened to not just by their personal relations, but any number of strangers ready to jump in the line of fire and get their feelings hurt. With all that said I’m done with the topic, internet strangers don’t get to police the morality of my private speech and if I ever say anything untoward to someone I actually know, I’ll make amends to them only.