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      6 days ago

      Instincts. Supposedly we look for the healthiest partner, and beauty is a symbol of health.

      Then again, some of us have been burnt and I no longer trust beautiful women, I prefer partner who’s easy to get along with/talk with and isn’t just using me.

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        19 hours ago

        I’m sorry. Sounds like you’ve had some shitty experiences. I have, too, so maybe I get it at least somewhat (based on this very short description), but my experiences aren’t yours, and it sucks. It changes you and can fuck up future relationships and happiness if the aftermath doesn’t go well. Hoping you have found a better path toward happiness.

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        19 hours ago

        Oh, I am highly attracted to certain kinds of intelligence in women, but (a) I think I have acquired this over my post-teenage life, and (b) I still very much need that intelligence to be in a body I also find attractive. We are all victims of our evolution and cultural messaging, to varying extents.