This is a very valid feeling. But it doesn’t sit well in the context of therapy. Like, this is individual therapy dealing with trauma from systemic problems. Like, if it’s outside of my locus of control I can either let it affect me forever or try to do something about it, even if that something is letting go (or even forgiving, as far-fetched as that ideal seems these days). Part of going to therapy is taking agency. There is a problem, in some small way I will do whatever I can about it.
I can’t just be mad with this and raise my mental pitchfork bc this is an illustration of someone rightfully truly struggling and their mental health physician pointing them towards the painful way out. I think the takeaway is less “how could anyone expect anyone to get over anything this heinous” and more one of horrible feeling of trying to hold onto the one thing you’re left with when someone is taken from you like that --anger-- and coming to terms with the fact that that anger is still hurting you long after. Your therapist is not going to start the revolution or the purge for you. They are literally there to help you and you alone with things that trouble you and you alone. When they talk to survivors of abuse as children, rape victims, they aren’t going to go out and slay the offenders, even if they want to. They are just trying to work with the tiniest amount of control a victim still has after the crime to help the victims make real change for themselves.
I guess overall it might not be productive to take that private struggle and put it out to your tumblr mutuals to validate you and build resistance to letting go but Idk. Healing can take many forms.
The angler is valid, but validity doesn’t mean that it can’t also be complex grief and that he isn’t coping. There’s nothing wrong with anger as an emotion. It’s the expression and impact that can be a problem (and can be pathological).
With the societal trends, it doesn’t matter even if OP gets better, the world is trending to cold, unfeeling, corporate, zero privacy garbage and basically no one is fighting back, or if they are there is no visibility.
To have people everywhere, all the time reference covid as the cold and not wear masks when they are sick means we learned NOTHING from covid as a society and we’ll likely repeat something similar.
This is a very valid feeling. But it doesn’t sit well in the context of therapy. Like, this is individual therapy dealing with trauma from systemic problems. Like, if it’s outside of my locus of control I can either let it affect me forever or try to do something about it, even if that something is letting go (or even forgiving, as far-fetched as that ideal seems these days). Part of going to therapy is taking agency. There is a problem, in some small way I will do whatever I can about it.
I can’t just be mad with this and raise my mental pitchfork bc this is an illustration of someone rightfully truly struggling and their mental health physician pointing them towards the painful way out. I think the takeaway is less “how could anyone expect anyone to get over anything this heinous” and more one of horrible feeling of trying to hold onto the one thing you’re left with when someone is taken from you like that --anger-- and coming to terms with the fact that that anger is still hurting you long after. Your therapist is not going to start the revolution or the purge for you. They are literally there to help you and you alone with things that trouble you and you alone. When they talk to survivors of abuse as children, rape victims, they aren’t going to go out and slay the offenders, even if they want to. They are just trying to work with the tiniest amount of control a victim still has after the crime to help the victims make real change for themselves.
I guess overall it might not be productive to take that private struggle and put it out to your tumblr mutuals to validate you and build resistance to letting go but Idk. Healing can take many forms.
The angler is valid, but validity doesn’t mean that it can’t also be complex grief and that he isn’t coping. There’s nothing wrong with anger as an emotion. It’s the expression and impact that can be a problem (and can be pathological).
Exactly.
Y’all are missing the point.
With the societal trends, it doesn’t matter even if OP gets better, the world is trending to cold, unfeeling, corporate, zero privacy garbage and basically no one is fighting back, or if they are there is no visibility.
To have people everywhere, all the time reference covid as the cold and not wear masks when they are sick means we learned NOTHING from covid as a society and we’ll likely repeat something similar.