Description: A five panel comic. In the first picture the main character leaves and a co-worker says “See ya, dude”. In the second panel, the protagonist is in a supermarket and the cashier says “Hey man.” In the third panel, the protagonist is on a train and someone on the phone says “Hello, sir.” In the fourth panel, the protagonist enters an apartment and says “I’ home.” and is welcomed by a woman who rushes towards her and says “THERE she is!” The two of them hug in the fifth panel, while the woman says “How’s my beautiful girlfriend doing??”

Art by Homunculus101

  • compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    6·
    2 months ago

    So real. My wife is amazing and so supportive, I’m lucky to have her ❤️

    I’m not out to everyone yet, and I feel bad she has to keep switching back to misgendering and deadnaming me whenever we go home to see family, I know it’s not easy

    • toynbee@lemmy.world
      4·
      2 months ago

      Geez, I thought I had family problems. (I initially started this statement with “man” instead of “geez” but realized how ridiculous that would be.)

      I’m sorry you and your wife have to go through that, but congratulations on identifying the real you, even if you don’t share her (I’m guessing, genuinely sorry if misgendering) with the world yet.

      • Eladriagon@lemmy.blahaj.zone
        3·
        2 months ago

        I’m from the Midwest, and we use “guys” (“hey guys”, “omg you guys”, “thanks guys”, etc.) to address any group of people, regardless of gender.

        When interacting with other trans individuals, I always feel bad doing that, but it’s engrained into my speech habits and really difficult to avoid!

      • compostgoblin@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        1·
        2 months ago

        Thank you! You are correct, I am a trans gal. It’s good to have found the real me 😊

        I’m out to my therapist, wife, and some of my friends, but none of my family yet. They’re all Catholic, and fairly devout at that, so I don’t have high hopes for how they’ll respond. I’m hoping they surprise me with how accepting they are, but I’m not banking on it. At a certain point, I won’t be able to hide my transition anymore, but for the moment, yeah, I’m boymoding when I go back to see family. Although I fortunately don’t have to do that too often

  • tetris11@feddit.ukEnglish
    2·
    2 months ago

    It took a while for me to switch pronouns when my colleague transitioned. Up until that point I had been “hey man… man, listen… y’alright dude…” etc. (literally had no idea what they were going through until the day before)

    I simply did not have that same banter vocabulary for girls, and I just had to learn to say “hey… listen… y’alright…”

    The dynamic changed a bit for a week, but then it bounced back fine. I just wince at all the gender-affirming vernacular in my casual speech that must have burned them every time I said it

  • pootzapie@lemy.lolEnglish
    0·
    2 months ago

    Hi all, not really a comment on this cartoon but a question if that’s ok, I often use guys and dude as gender neutral terms (interchangeable with folks for ex). Is that hurtful or misgendering, are those habits I should break? Ty