I think I need to rewatch it because I thought the power balance was OK (considering she’s literal royalty so fuck that) and yeah he’s fawning but I thought it was good boundaries because it’s just like in his head? but it’s one of those subtle things like if it’s at all unwelcome or burdensome then it’s a bad example but if it’s just a private crush thing? then idk. Like I said I probably need to rewatch with a feminist lens to get all the text and nuance + 202X mixins that may have changed the context.
I do try to interrogate stuff like this. One litmus test for it is would I have an issue if it was two gay women? or gay men? romantic asexuals? It sidesteps a bit of the gender and chaser politics, so it’s not perfect, but it can help me see past my own biases.
Anyway sorry if I come off as defensive. Full disclosure maybe I am a bit, but I’m trying not to be.
I think I need to rewatch it because I thought the power balance was OK (considering she’s literal royalty so fuck that) and yeah he’s fawning but I thought it was good boundaries because it’s just like in his head? but it’s one of those subtle things like if it’s at all unwelcome or burdensome then it’s a bad example but if it’s just a private crush thing? then idk. Like I said I probably need to rewatch with a feminist lens to get all the text and nuance + 202X mixins that may have changed the context.
I do try to interrogate stuff like this. One litmus test for it is would I have an issue if it was two gay women? or gay men? romantic asexuals? It sidesteps a bit of the gender and chaser politics, so it’s not perfect, but it can help me see past my own biases.
Anyway sorry if I come off as defensive. Full disclosure maybe I am a bit, but I’m trying not to be.