• rumschlumpel@feddit.org
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      It’s perfectly common for people to change how they act over the course of a relationship, especially if it lasts a long time. She might have made more of an effort to behave “nicely” when the relationship was fresh, or maybe she just changed as a person, or confused “acting confidently” with “abusing service workers” when she gained a little confidence as she got older.

      If you’re in a relationship with someone who starts acting like this after, let’s say, 10 years, you don’t immediately drop everything, especially if you have children with them.

      And y’know, men are often victims in abusive relationships, too. They stay for similar reasons as abused women.

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        That’s the joke, isn’t it?

        Women marry men expecting them to change, and then they don’t.
        Men marry women expecting them not to change, and then they do.

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      “If I were in an abusive relationship, I would simply leave” /s

      Seriously this is some real shortsighted reasoning you’ve got here.

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      Unless he got baby trapped or entrapped into the marriage which is more common than you’d think.

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      He chose to believe the lies to get his peepee wet, but yes there’s always a moment where the door looks appealing and not seizing that opportunity early enough was a choice… or so I’ve heard.